You found me out.

That's one of my videos.

That one and others
can be found on both
the Healing Emotionally
Abused Lives website

(emotionalheal.org)

and also on
Youtube.

I'm not a natural "presenter"
but I do the best I can, and
have gotten a little smoother
as time has gone on. I remind
myself that the message is all
that's important. And that's why
I've spent some time in front
of the camera.

I thought you did wonderful on video!! I had no idea that was you!! I was shocked when I got your email this morning and I said thats Ilene? Wow!!! Your video was very good and I think helpful. I watched more than one and it realy helped me to feel validated. I could never get validation or aknowledgment from my ex abuser. He was a covert stonewaller, witholder, withdrawing, countering, discounting abusive hurtful man. He would constantly abandon me physically and emotionally and i am so mentally ill from it all. I found your website when looking for how to heal from emtoinal abuse because therapy it taking forever for me to get at the Vet Hospital, and I want help now. So I thought I would help myself but turns you you were gona help me! And you didn't know either!!! lol. i think your video's are awesome and I hung onto every word you said through the whole video and i watched two last night.. The others I cant see because my quicktime player says its the wrong format. So I dont know how to view them. I may try on my sons laptop maybe that will work because my comp here is a mac and that happens a lot. So I will try to veiw them on there later. I just wanted to say, (its funny how I watched it then shared it here) I'm still shocked. The I said that is how Ilene is so smart and knows so much what to say to all of us! She's a pro!!! I am still shocked. I really want to know how to heal. Do you have a book or something? I have a kindle fire and can go through amazon. If you do can you give me a title so i can see if i can get it. I need help. I struggle each day with no contact, even though I know i cant be with him, it will never work and it will only hurt me. I really would rather work on my personal issues and not gravitate towards him ever again. i do no contact but he always finds a way to contact me. He waited around the corner last time and it still messes with my head. I want to fix what is wrong with me and never be in an abusive relationship again. My sons father physically/emotionallly abused me for 12 years! Then this guy for about 7 years. He has left me (abandoned) like 100 times! I do not want to do it anymore. I want to change me because I never want to go through that again. I would rather be alone and single the rest of my life.
I know you know. So if you have a book on healing, let me know! I will buy it! Thanks and yep I found you out! Suprised me!! lol

I'm on my phone, I think I'll hv to go to my computer to view . Tnx

Oh. . . . radrm. . . .

I'm so glad I could help
in any way.

I began life as a writer
and have been professionally
published throughout my adult
life. Most of my writing on topics
of healing and recovery is done
here on DS and also on the HEAL
website.

I am working on larger pieces,
but they're not done yet.
When they are, I wouldn't
promote them here, as
D.S. is non-profit (except
for the ads they actually
sell, along the sides
of the screen).

I come by my knowledge
both personally, as a
survivor, and clinically, as
a credentialed professional.

I'll check with my webmaster
about the formatting. But
maybe you can get to a
library with internet.

Finally, healing from profound
emotional injury requires
a number of things. One
is someone with experience
to help bring you tools, techniques
and strategies. Another is absolute
dedication to "doing the work" of recovery.
Last of all, recovery takes time.

SELF-CARE is the absolute
bottom line.

Included under the heading
of self-care, is
APPROPRIATE BOUNDARIES.

If you begin with self-care,
you can't go wrong. Then,
keeping toxic people out
of your inner circle, is
another really good move.

Sending you hugs
and healing prayers.