Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was going two weeks almost no contact....and i started to feel better, but i caved and I talked to him last night and the night before to tell him our son was walking.....
Now tonight, i got into an argument with him and these are some of the things he said to me:
-believe it or not. I don't care. i am sorry. i always have been. it's only you that still see's me in a devils mask.
-you fed my depression, and it was like you didn't even see it.
-i'm not going to say anything anymore. you twist my words into something that fits better in your own messed up world.
-you live in your own little world.
-if something upsets your screwy little planet, then it must be evil, and it needs to go away.
-tell me how? where do go? who do you see? who do you talk to? only people and places that supplement your screwy beliefs.
-you think I'm evil or something, so you only tell people what will make them believe it's tue. you live in places where you're completely sheltered from the world.
-i'm sorry. now i'm just talking gibberish. i don't even understand my own words or thoughts. this was your problem though. you think that you're the only one who's allowed to have problems.
Those are the things he said to me tonight.....
Im sorry if that made no sense..... I am very hurt, and crying over this.... He thinks im crazy.....is this his way of screwing with my head? I feel like the worse person right now
Now tonight, i got into an argument with him and these are some of the things he said to me:
-believe it or not. I don't care. i am sorry. i always have been. it's only you that still see's me in a devils mask.
-you fed my depression, and it was like you didn't even see it.
-i'm not going to say anything anymore. you twist my words into something that fits better in your own messed up world.
-you live in your own little world.
-if something upsets your screwy little planet, then it must be evil, and it needs to go away.
-tell me how? where do go? who do you see? who do you talk to? only people and places that supplement your screwy beliefs.
-you think I'm evil or something, so you only tell people what will make them believe it's tue. you live in places where you're completely sheltered from the world.
-i'm sorry. now i'm just talking gibberish. i don't even understand my own words or thoughts. this was your problem though. you think that you're the only one who's allowed to have problems.
Those are the things he said to me tonight.....
Im sorry if that made no sense..... I am very hurt, and crying over this.... He thinks im crazy.....is this his way of screwing with my head? I feel like the worse person right now
people can't doing anything to us unless we teach them to treat us as we wish. people can't do anything to us unless we let them.
There seems to be a manoscript that abuser go by.aw, the same tactics. Same ole same ole tactic's
Gender/age has nothing to do with being a man.
Don't waste any more of your life. we can't get bk the yrs that we wasted.
Try not to show him that he can get your goat - bait you and reel you bk in tighter each time.
Don't waste your time with the what's & if's and onlys.
stop believeing his & your excuses - lies.
For get about trying to figue him out - his behavior etc...
you & I - we all know that he is an abuser and that abuse will only get worst.
Don't lose who you are.
Happiness is achiveable. happiness as will as abuse effects our physical & mental well being, our daily lives and yes we have effect on our friends & family.
oh ya. forget so called joint friends and his family. his family is just that - his family. more than likely joint friends are actually his friends that he sorta of let you have - to keep track of what your doing & thinking , where your at in ciurse of day - everyday etc...
Above all else focus on yourself. take care of yourself for yourself and for others.
I promise that there is light at end of tunnel. I'v done been through turnal & I'm holding the light w others at end of turnal for you.
X's
They twist, they lie, they corrupt and they make you feel crazy and like you are the one at fault. And they are good at it.
All the best to you.
this way of communication is saved & can be printed out to show your atty, child social worker etc...
if needeff have a drop off - pick up set location. let it be in heavy = busy area, grocery store parking lot - in ft of store - near store doors.
if child is a baby get your mother or someone to schedule - lets say Tue's to go with you to give & recieve the chid. do not roll down your window nor leave car door open while the exchange is being made. he will try his damest to sweet talk & degrade you.
He might even put notes in baby seat, cloths for you. which is a record - proof of his disfunk.
X's
YES.
Does he WANT to co-parent with you?
If he doesn't, that would be a stroke of
very good luck.
But if he does, as has already been suggested,
there are ways to have contact that can be
restricted to parenting issues and also DOCUMENTED.
In addition, do you have a personal counselor?
That would help you stay oriented and help
you begin to heal from the abuse.
Hugs and take good care.
Yes, it's his way of screwing with you. Yes, it's his way of getting back inside your head, and undoing two weeks of NC. So, just start again....We've all done that...it's a learning experience. Each time you learn more of what you have to do to become healthy, and free of them.
Hugs.....