Goodness.

I'm a lover, not a fighter, and hostilities trigger me.

So, after time to get myself settled down, here's my perspective:

After seeing post after post from juled, about being in the mess of a chronic chaos that seemed to be a nearly-daily repetitive crisis, I began to wonder if this was a genuine situation or someone on looking for daily attention.

When I was assured it was a genuine situation, the next alternative was that it appeared that she was remaining in the situation with someone she called an "ex," like someone who sits down in the middle of a building that's filling with black smoke and will momentarily burn down around their ears.

That's why I took a strong position responding to juled's post. She seemed intent on remaining connected to a person whose agenda was hostile and potentially dangerous to her.

Good? Bad? Hypocrite?

Mature? Immature?

Who knows?

Like everyone else, I do the best I can.

I hope SINN doesn't end up leaving ----- or anybody.


I'm not without human failings and if I've been offensive or inappropriate to anyone here in the community from which I've gotten so much support for almost two years now, I offer my sincerest regrets and apologies, and ask your pardon, if you're able to give it.

To juled. . . . . . . I hope that you have the wherewithall to keep reaching out and getting the support you need to feel physically better and to move away from the toxic relationship about which you've spoken so often and attribute so much of your poor physical health.

When I said that there are things we can get from an on-line forum and things we can't ------ well ----- that's still the case! No one in cyberspace can protect anyone from an on-the-ground predator. You can tell us that you fear for your safety. You can tell us that you were hurt by someone in your life and that it will likely happen again. But no one on-line can do a thing to stop someone from being hurt in real life. The person in jeopardy must take appropriate steps.

juled . . . . . it sounds like you may be taking those steps, and I'm very glad. Good for you! Really, really great!!!!! I know you're very compassionate about your ex and that's a good thing ------ as long as you're being compassionate from a place of safety. Because at the end of the day, the one you're responsible for is yourself, as your ex is responsible for HERself.

Kitty ---- you made some valid points and I know your intentions were all good. You might consider looking at your delivery, as I will also consider looking at mine.

There is much wisdom, on the pages of this board, or I wouldn't spend so much of my time visiting and responding here. I hope no one leaves. I hope, with every post and reply, we ----- each of us ----- takes away something of value and of use for the future.

My apologies if I've offended. . . . . .my request for the love and support everyone wants and needs. . . . . .for ourself and each other. . . . . compassion for where each of us is and where each of us is hoping to end up.

Thanks for reading and understanding. Please take good care and be well.