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Just an update, my marriage is very damaged and I am very disconnected from him. The cycles and patters he exhibits and continues to do - are draining and depressing and I feel I no longer have a partner in my marriage. I had gone to see an attorney last week that was an absolute horror. However, I did not give up.
Today I met with an extremely confident, mature, knowledgeable attorney who completely got my situation, she explained the procedures, processes, my rights and showed me the light at the end of my tunnel.
I am sad that my marriage is ending. Ive been with him for more than half my life - its extremely hard and sad - even tough i have initiated this. We have 2 little girls - its breaking my heart. And yet the marriage is not good or healthy anymore.
I have 2 more attorney consults this week. Even though I waver and feel bad and have my weak moments, I am feeling stronger everyday.
Thank you for all of your support - DS has had a huge impact on me :)
Hugs,
Today I met with an extremely confident, mature, knowledgeable attorney who completely got my situation, she explained the procedures, processes, my rights and showed me the light at the end of my tunnel.
I am sad that my marriage is ending. Ive been with him for more than half my life - its extremely hard and sad - even tough i have initiated this. We have 2 little girls - its breaking my heart. And yet the marriage is not good or healthy anymore.
I have 2 more attorney consults this week. Even though I waver and feel bad and have my weak moments, I am feeling stronger everyday.
Thank you for all of your support - DS has had a huge impact on me :)
Hugs,
I'm glad to hear you had a positive experience with this attorney. There are some that "get it" and some that don't...don't waste another minute with those that don't. It's your life, you deserve to be happy.
(((HUGS)))
Leaving any marriage,
especially a dysfunctional one,
is one of the hardest things
a woman or man
has to end up doing.
Please take very good care
of yourself and your two little girls.
Life can be better.
Stay focused on
that better life.
I know it hurts to divorce. Even when you know it will never work, it hurts so bad, especially because of the kids. But of course you know there is no other good option.
When I divorced with an infant son, I felt I was making a bad choice, but a less bad choice than staying. I still feel that way. It was the least bad of the choices available to me. And that's sad. Sad, but necessary.
All the best to you.
Your little girls have an awesome mom!
XOXO
Is this normal? Feeling so confident and secure with my decision one minute. And then feeling so sad and nostalgic the next?
Giggle - don't be so hard on yourself. I understand how religion pulls at us. But what people here have said has really helped me.... This is not part of a healthy marriage. HE broke the contract. When we decide we've had enough, we're just finalizing the contract that has already been broken. God does not want us to be unhappy, sad and in pain. Life is a gift. A precious gift. We shouldn't waste it. Don't worry too much about that promise you made to your preacher... Your husband broke his promise to you. Hugs girl :)
Huge hugs and warm thoughts xx