Well, he kept calling from Thursday on. Left voice mails and sometimes not. The voice mails started with using my name and saying just to call, then using my full name, stating the time (which is not off course for him as it fits with his OCD, He is very rigid with time, wakes up at a certain time, goes to bed at a certain time, chooses a certain bowl for his cereal and has to have it in the freezer first to be cold..picks a certain brand of cereal till he tires of it, a certain bowl etc..does not like to alter his schedule and/or disruptions or cancellations) Anyway, I could tell the not answering the phone (had it set to reject) was making him get very irritable and I wanted to avoid conflict. As I figure, he was just set on the nuero appt for Wed and wondering if he was going to be taking me, I let it go last night, then texted this morning as I knew he would be at work and could not call me and upset me.
( I did notice that he had started using Please call me and Thanks Babe, but he calls friends that are women babe and waitresses and such Babe so that very well could be just a habit that he doesn't realize he does)
I texted this morning this trying to be fair but not give any impressions that I need him to do any favors or we are getting back together.
Me: Was away from phone last night. If your calling about the appmt it has been taken care of. ( did not want to give him any information on this on who was taking me) Appreciate that you offered and thank you. Hope you got the meds you needed to start getting sleep. Take care.
He replied right away: Ok ttyl

So I am hoping I was fair but objective, firm but not ignorant? I realize he has left me hanging many times, he does not play fair,but I am not him. I also realize that the abuser will always make his own rules, but I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt in this case, as I had to stop the calls and feel that with this text he immediately texted back, he perhaps was honestly just trying to make sure that I went to the nuerologist and was going to do me that favor?
Soooo, maybe this is the end of it, and though I know we cannot be friends in the normal sense of the word, I hopefully ended this civilly and can restablish NC with no further problems.

Wishing everyone strength, love and light...
Hoping that the weekend goes by smoothly and I keep busy and keep my mind off of him and his reasons for things. Hoping next week brings positive changes my way..hair appmt Monday, color, cut and style, spray tan and perhaps with a new outside can help with a new inside?

Neuro appmt as well and get a handle on my migraines and work on my health..start walking a bit too on the less humid days.
Thanks for reading and for any support.