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Trying to stop thinking about things

radrm
radrm
Over and over again everything I see and hear reminds me of something that happened with my ex. Usually bad memories. It is recent since he left (Thanksgiving) and I keep opening my mouth when the thoughts come in. I would like to shut my mind off when this happens. A lot of anxiety and uneasy feelings. I keep busy by doing things all day after work but I feel so stressed out. I worry he will try to come here or text me again because I know he will and I am trying to be prepared to delete texts and if he shows up here I'm calling the cops. (Ilene that's what they said I have to do - call when he comes to document the stalking). If he does come here again I will get a restraining order. I just wish I could shut my thoughts down. Anyone feel like they think and talk too much about them and what they have done? I feel like its a broken record that's been played out.
MendingToday
MendingToday
It may feel that way for a couple of days, because all this has been going on for years, it's kind of like the calm after the storm. Just try your best to relax, and stay on your toes at the same time. I know it's hard but your gonna get past the looking over your shoulder, every time I leave my house I expect him to jump out but I know he won't becuase he is over 40 miles away, so unless he is actually sitting outside I am always on guard, but the good thing he knows better than to come here without asking first, but he can't do that anymore.

I would definatley file a restraining order and keep filing it until he get's it through his head your done and your not playing games anymore.

Good Luck Radrm.
newrose2013
newrose2013
I understand what you're saying and yes, it's exhausting. I can tell you for me, what works is a lot of journaling, cleaning, yard work, exercising, listening to music, and more journaling, and lots and lots of praying. Every time I feel overwhelmed I just ask God for peace, over and over again. Hang in there, talk nice and positive to yourself. I still have hard days but there are less of them. Stay strong, keeping you in my prayers
Tangelo
Tangelo
I don't have a solution, I can just tell you I have the same problem.

I keep thinking about it over and over again. Its getting better as time goes by though.
IleneW
IleneW
SELF-CARE

Self-care and
healthy boundaries.

In sports (including
martial arts), there's
something called
"the ready position."

It's a stance in which
you're simultaneously
centered and alert
and ready to move
in any direction
and yet still
calm and relaxed.
MixedBerries
MixedBerries
I know exactly what you mean. I do the same thing when something is upsetting to me. Whether it's my childhood or more recent incidents. Sometimes it's as if I'm having a conversation with myself about it. When it feels like that (a conversation or maybe reciting an incident), I'll often journal. It doesn't help when my thoughts are more fragmented or visual, but it's great when I *can* write it down. Getting it out of my head and onto paper. Then I'll reread and reread and reread instead of reciting. And slowly I'll start to reread less until I realize that I haven't read it in days or weeks.
radrm
radrm
Thank you all for your comments - the support is really helping me feel stronger each day! I appreciate everyone's input it helps me feel sane!!