Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
today is his birthday and if you read my last post "he ruined my birthday" last week i really have no empathy or desire to make this day a pleasant one for him. i had actually thought about calling the cops and having him removed from my home today as a stick it to u kind of thing but i can't do that. i am not calm and calculating i am more take action then and there in the heat of the moment type, but i cant do that now. for one i need to get an answer from the child care assistance people because there is no way i can afford daycare for 2 on my own. that could take a month!!! i cant bring myself to act like its all good though i just don't even look at him the same anymore its true what they say when u had enough something will just click in you. he wants a party this weekend with all his family and that is the last thing i want to do but i feel like i have to keep the peace until i have all my ducks in a row. last night he yelled at me for spending $3 on my lunch at work instead of buying him a pack of cigarettes...i am soooo ready for him to be gone. also i ask my oldest (she is 8) how she would feel if i made daddy leave would she be sad and i swear she looked like it was the best news she ever heard her face lit up and said no she wouldn't be sad at all. smh
Be careful what you ask your daughter. Even though she wants her dad out, you don't want to have her feel somewhere down the line that you removed him from the home because of or for her. When talking about removing him from the home, tell her what YOU feel is best. Don't ask her opinion; she's too young to make that call.
There were episodes in my house where my spouse would become abusive then storm out of the house. My daughter (who was 10 at the time) told me to change the locks.
My daughter has been in therapy for about 5 years (she is now 16). Not because I kicked out my abusive spouse, but because of the abuse she witnessed and abuse that was directed at her. During our divorce process, my daughter's psychologist wrote a letter to the court indicating that my daughter should not be forced to have visits with her father (she was 12 at the time). And, she didn't. Get your daughter into therapy. It could be helpful with the courts.