Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I took my two second-cousins to Colorado almost two months ago during spring break. At which point I found out that their mother is raising them almost as poorly as my mother did me, only minus the physical abuse. I moved here to be with the family, aunt, uncle, two cousins and their family, in December. I am still living with my Aunt who has now turned against me and say she and the mother feel I am trying to take the older boy who has recently gotten ill, away from the mother. Now the step father is putting me down and telling the older boy that he is not sick but rather he is faking it. As well as turning the two boys against each other. They are not receiving proper dental care, medical care and now with the emotional turmoil I just want to call CPS and have them picked up. What I have decided is to try and go talk with CPS, get my own place no matter what and have things set up where if CPS wants to remove the boys I can try to take them. Any advice?
There is a whole lot more to say, but I didn't want to write a novel.
There is a whole lot more to say, but I didn't want to write a novel.
You don't mention your age or the age of the children involved. The younger they are and the older you are, the better the chance is of you being able to voluntarily take on the responsibility of these children. If you are still in school (high school or college) then your chances may be a lot slimmer, simply because foster care would already be set up to handle them, and the sacrifices you would have to make would be seen as too great.
Bless you for trying to do what is best for these children. Bless you for trying to make the parents see the error of their ways. Bless you for the self-sacrifice you are willing to make. Just don't get your feelings hurt if the courts/CPS doesn't feel like you are the best place for the kids.
One sad reality is that if the kids are teenagers, then CPS is much less inclined to do anything about it, simply because the caseload for younger children is so heavy and older kids are seen as being close to ready to be on their own anyway. CPS tries to work mostly where there is the greater potential benefit, which prioritizes infants, toddlers and grade-school age children first, and those with serious and verifiable cases of neglect and/or abuse. I'm not saying this is right, because it generates a huge faction of children at risk at a very vulnerable time in their lives, and these children often end up falling through the cracks. All I am saying is that this is the sad reality of things.
Keep us posted on what happens. We are all here to pull for you and give you whatever strength you need.
I think the best advice I was ever given is; never do anything that will cause you regrets, and always go to bed with a clear conscience.