Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I got an email from him this morning. His 3rd attempt at contacting me. First time he came here and acted like he was here to talk to my roommate, 2nd time was a text just saying "I keep thinking about you", and now the email said nothing just "God Bless you" in the subject line.
What the heck is that? He knows it will make me think about him and he is waiting for a response even if its me being angry telling him off. He thrives on that! I deleted it and will not reply.
I am in control now! I know this isn't the last of it. My son is so afraid I will go back - he said he has had dreams about my ex coming back and him having to confront him wanting to beat him up. My son is 19 now and I just tell him I am sorry I have done this to him and I don't want him to do anything to the ex even if he comes here trying to contact me because i don't want anything to happen to my son. I told my son we will call the police if he comes here you don't have to do anything. What a shame it has to be like this. But it will pass in time once he figures out I'm not going to cave again that may take a lot of time.
What the heck is that? He knows it will make me think about him and he is waiting for a response even if its me being angry telling him off. He thrives on that! I deleted it and will not reply.
I am in control now! I know this isn't the last of it. My son is so afraid I will go back - he said he has had dreams about my ex coming back and him having to confront him wanting to beat him up. My son is 19 now and I just tell him I am sorry I have done this to him and I don't want him to do anything to the ex even if he comes here trying to contact me because i don't want anything to happen to my son. I told my son we will call the police if he comes here you don't have to do anything. What a shame it has to be like this. But it will pass in time once he figures out I'm not going to cave again that may take a lot of time.
"He knows it will make me think about him and he is waiting for a response even if its me being angry telling him off. "
I think at some point, abusers almost always bring 'god' into the mix. That's so we will think they have found god. uh huh, sure thing, lol.
It sounds like this is very hard for your son and you are doing all you can to help him. It will take time for you both to heal. Is your son in therapy? It could help him w/the anger. In a lot of cases, anger is the 'cover up' feeling for hurt/pain/sadness.
I hope & pray your ex gives up sooner than later and that you and your son stay safe.
My son was in counseling but he stopped months ago. I do not like his anger - he has Bi-Polar Disorder and the anger can be dangerous sometimes. I don't want my son to do anything to get in trouble or regret anything later. I would feel so guilty if I caused my son to lose it and throw his life away over such a loser. I have discussed this with him a few times since the ex left and hopefully he can keep it under control. I will suggest he see his counselor again too. I think that would help him.
God bless.
And you are AWESOME.
Keep mining your
inner strength.
You already
know that it's
there. It's there
and will not
run out.
You're a warrior
and you're
claiming
your life.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am realizing that not responding is my power. I should not have the need to satisfy him with a response. F HIM!! Excuse my language but I am so angry.