Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My mind is just racing all the time, I have so much to do. I have been preparing to leave my abusive alcoholic husband for awhile now.But the farther along I get in the process the harder it seems to get.Everything is going wrong it seems,the Attorney is awful, whom I hird to reprsent me I don't have the money for him. I looked at rentals yesterday, and that was a nightmare.I looked up some questions online about divorce in my state and I am in an absolute no way to win situation.My husband will be fine and have money and I will be completely broke with no income coming in for right now.My husband makes a very good living but in our state and in our county, it doesn't matter that we have been married 25 years, and had 3 children.Since he was the one who made the money and has everything in his name. I have learned that he is entiltled, pretty much to everything.This sucks so bad,that I have tried so very hard for so long to make it work with this monster! and he will walk away with everything, it is as if I'm a victim of the fallout of this horrible Marriage. That I really think has never been a marriage in the 1st place. It has always been about him, his control over me,as if I have been an object he has possessed and most of the time, I would say 95% of the time I have been a disapointment to him. And he has let me know this daily for freaking 25 years.I hate all of this .At first I was so excited about leaving him, and I am looking forward to living a life that is peaceful with no one cusrsing me daily for my inablity to do anything right.I hate having to leave with nothing and he will have everything, and I wouldn't care if I didn't have the 3 kids to care for.With him, they will have anything they want or need with me all they will have is me and nothing else.I feel so inadequite with everything to provide for myself and my children and have no self esteem to get away safely and began to get well from all of these years of been his victim .I hate saying that, but that is how it is. Never have I felt like a wife to this man,just the object that was always defective to him.See when we married I was young and so pretty, but now I look in the mirror and all I see is someone I do not recognize at all,I look awful,I'm fat,I'm gray,I'm sick,I'm in pain constantly.Well why the hell would he find me deserving of any compasion, or love,or anyrthing.I'm so anxious, nervous, scared,I will be alone the rest of my life, because of what this life has created in me.I guess I feel as worthless as he says that I am right now.Well enough of my own pitty party,I have had a few awful days and I go today to meet with another lawyer, and I have to pay her 400.00 today just to speak with her for an hour!!!!I hate this so much.Sorry I'm so negative ,today but I needed to write thse feelings out,so thanks for listening.
Of what you had said, "or myself and my children and have no self esteem to get away safely." Do you really need self esteem to protect your kids, even yourself? Everything he tells you to bring you down, are all lies, you shouldn't believe a word he tells you.
Is he abusing your kids?
The child support laws seem similar to where I live as well: "Georgia child support guidelines uses the Percentage of Income formula which calculates the support obligation as a percentage of the income of the non-custodial parent who is obligated to support the child".
It looks like he'd just have to support ONE child, since the others are grown, he should not even gripe...but you know, they always do. It'll just make him look ridiculous.
Your lawyer is misinforming you, and not diong the job. There are lawyers who give free consultations. Finding a good one could make a big difference in the way you're feeling right now. Do your research, check reviews online, ask for referrals.
I see you are in pain and sick? Are you able to work? This might be something else to consider with your attorney: Spousal support! Here is more re: GA - "After reviewing your case, the attorney may then determine that spousal support is necessary. It will be the job of the judge to determine whether or not one spouse is entitled to financial support". Experts will tell you, abuse makes us sick. Something to read up on when you get the chance...
No harm in asking your attorney.
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. Your H is full of BS; I know it's hard to imagine now, but there is life after abuse. When you're able to, please start counseling for all of the trauma you've endured.
Best of luck!