Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have realised that my abuser ( husband ) is Narc and Pass Aggress.....sometimes when he would talk to me he would talk to me as if he were educating a child !....for instance....he would tell me things that where blatentley OBVIOUS and in front of me....like if something was on the telly , he would go into detail about what they just said and id just heard it !!...it was as though he wanted me to know that HE knows more than they do !!
was yours like this?
was yours like this?
its so demaning and condescending...
Didn't you know that these sort of people are the best of the best...nobody is better than them, nobody is even close to them on any level, there is nobody as intelligent, powerful or successful as them, they win at everything, they despise losing, and they despise anyone who is lower than them on any standard...... they are infact superior ..
PATHETIC ISN'T IT !!!!!!.......... jeez....... looking back we should just humour them... it's quite laughable at times just how brilliant they really think they are... heck, they even manage to convince themselves at times......
It's amazing that once you are out of it you can really start to pick apart what they said, even the most innocent of comments wasn't innocent..
Best Wishes from Susan xx
My ex-husband and narc was always in lecture mode, though he was also a college professor. He loved to pontificate and hear the sound of his own voice. And he was always, always right.
He was like this with everyone, not just me. Ick.
I've heard Dr. Phil say if you treat your spouse like a child they WILL do what children do... Grow up and move out! lol
Power, control and superiority. It's what they do.
haha! yep just as I thought! he was all talk! He still hasn't ran for office, and it's been 3 years since I said that.
And lately, I have learned when not to say anything, and just let him talk. and just nod my head and say yeah, uh huh, ooooh. and the like. Cause if I say anything to agree/disagree, he will say "NO" then he'll shake his head, "you don't get what I am saying" shaking his head and then like if I'm an idiot he'll sigh...
it irritates me, so I will say, "oh ok, I'm sorry, keep talking, so I can understand"
for some reason this irritates him even more, and he will stay quiet.
inside I am smiling because he know as well as I do that he is just full of it and really doesn't know what he is talking about and wants me to feel stupid.
It's very sad when a victim learns how to speak to these abusers.