Have you seen a therapist who specializes in recovery from trauma & abuse? Has anyone ever suggested that you might be dealing with PTSD? i'm not diagnosing, but what you describe are classic symptoms. I encourage you to get an evaluation with someone who specializes in recovery from trauma and abuse. Not all therapists are qualified to recognize and/or treat trauma or even really understand the dynamics of abuse or trauma bonding. So its important to ask about their additional training and what modalities they use to treat trauma & PTSD. Meds & talk therapy aren't always enough when treating PTSD and trauma and sometimes just talk therapy and/or meds actually exacerbates the situation. There are additional modalities that are being proven to be more powerful and successful.
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I encourage you to ask around and 'interview' potential therapists. There isn't a 'one size fits all' treatment for abuse/trauma, so if one doesn't seem to be working, please don't give up hope.

Your local shelter should have therapists for free. I am familiar with your previous posts, and right now you have a lot going on. With job gone, breakup, your child moving to a special needs home...wow, a lot. Give yourself some credit for just being together somewhat.

I am so sorry for what you're going through. That is a lot of stressors, a lot of change. School, your child leaving the home, a change in job, a break up, from an abuser no less. What you are going through emotionally, is unfortunately, normal for the amount of stress you are under. We are here for you.

I personally can identify with what you are going through with your child. My daughter has a mental health disability, schizoaffective disorder. I have had her placed in a residential treatment facility in the past when I was unable to keep her safe in our home. I have an idea of how stressful that is, and admire that you are putting the needs of your son above your own, because I am sure you would rather have him with you. It's a very difficult, guilt laden decision, but you can't run yourself into the ground trying to care for him without the proper resources to do it. Are there support groups in your area for whatever condition your son has? Schizophrenia caregiver support groups really helped me, and still do.

As far as recovery from abuse, it takes time, please be aware it is a process, and will have ups, downs, set backs, progress, and it can't be rushed, it is what it is. Please be kind to yourself and have the expectation that you will have a lot of emotions, but you can and will get through this to a better place. Practice self care, this is vitally important for everything you are going through.

I agree, counseling will speed up the recovery process immensely, reach out for that help with a qualified therapist. And we are always here for any venting, when in need of strength, to get validation, whatever you need.