Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Depression, exhaustion, difficulty concentrating, lack of will to live. :/ Worst thing is it's almost impossible for me to imagine feeling safe. I can't figure out what my life should look like! I barely have the slightest clue what I want it to look like. I don't know what choice to make as far as where to go, so that I can heal. I have left before and it was a horrible environment for healing, actually the trauma got worse. I need to make a decent decision so that I can cope.
Living in an abusive situation will make it hard to feel 100% comfortable and confident in almost any decision. Sometimes you have to just decide and leave.
The rest will become so much clearer when you are away from the abuse!
Hats off to you! I know you can do it!!!
sometimes you just have to leave to save yourself.
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Been trying to find the strength. I know I've been doing things real backwards, but I've been in therapy to work thru some of the affects of this UNbelievable lifelong shit. The more perspective I get on how horrific this aubser is and has been to me in soo many truly unbelievable ways--and then another thing is sometimes I take time to go out with friends and or go to a support group or something--every time I get perspective or do something like that, the more it's becoming clear to me THIS IS HORRIFIC. IF I JUST LEAVE (AS LONG AS I DON'T GO TO A DIFFERENT ABUSIVE HOUSE) I CAN HEAL. I can find happiness and be well, perhaps very easily. I just DON'T know why I feel SO almost listless every day and overwhelmed by working on the task of getting out, even though there are definite good possiblities. I don't know why I put it off, it's hard to think straight. I'm just SO depressed. I know if I leave, it will get better. I guess I have a silly fear it might not. I guess I have a hard time with change, as silly as that sounds under the circumstances. :/
Happily. . . . . I got enough distance
to NOT end my life.
Slowly, over a period of time, I
put the pieces together to
MOVE OUT. Then, even
though he was trying to
lure me back, I STAYED
OUT and got therapy.
Then. . . . I divorced him.
It took a long time.
But every day I moved myself
farther away was BETTER
than the best day, living
under the roof of abuse.
It may take you time.
But KNOW
that life WITHOUT ABUSE
is LIVING. Living with an
abuser is not really living.
It's a living HELL.
While you're working through
what you want to do, do NOT
share any of those thoughts
with him. DO NOT share
your inner life with him.
That's the FIRST place
to keep him out of.
EVICT him from your
inner life!!!!!!!!!!!
Please take very good
care of yourself. Know
that life free of abuse
will be sssssoooooooooo
much better.