Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
so i have been with my significant other for 14 years we have 3 children together. he used to be physically abusive when he got into a rage but hasn't put his hand on me in years however he is very much verbally and mentally abusive. he laughs at that and tells me that i must have a weak mind if i can let what he says affect the way i feel. i never do anything right even though i am the only one that works and keeps all our bills paid. i am the one that was able to buy us a home. but again i am dumb and stupid and i am only as good as i am today because he made me a better person. yeah i wasn't shit before i met him, he practically raised me according to him. half the time i think he must be joking when he says stuff like that because no one in their right mind would believe such bull. I'm also a "soft mom" and if he weren't there my kids would walk all over me. anyway i am over it, i am over him, i have been unhappy for years and i believe my kids deserve a happy mom. however when i told him i wanted him to leave he tells me that i am being selfish worrying about my own happiness and i am willing to take my kids away from their daddy for my own selfish reasons, and that i lost the right to care about my feelings when i had children. he refuses to leave my home and by law i would have to get him evicted or put a restraining order on him and i just feel really bad about doing that in front of my children but i also don't want them to see him constantly put me down.
other thread first,
but here:
(225) 752-1296
is the number
for your state's
coalition.
Please keep in mind
that children growing
up under the roof of
abuse, absorb the
toxicity, even if the
abuse isn't directed
at them. They will,
with a high degree
of probability, end up
either being susceptible
to being abused, or abusive.
Also, keep in mind
that he's already been
physically violent. That
he hasn't been for awhile,
isn't significant. He's
already demonstrated
that that's among his
behavior patterns.
It probably wouldn't
take much to shove
him into a rage, again.
Please call that number!
They'll help you sort
this out. Do it for
yourself, but also. . .
do it for your kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As for: "I lost the right to care about my feelings..."
You NEVER lose that. Not ever. Only someone with zero empathy would say that, or mock you for being affected by something they said or did.
Hoping you and your children get the help you need xxx