Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
In general, this is a problem I've had...how to deal with the guilt. Today I talked to him via instant message and text message. I was supposed to buy him a ticket to come here and get me because I have failed to go there. (posted previously in advice about my situation)
I feel so guilty. He says he is depressed and miserable because of this. He told me how his grandmother dislikes me (he takes care of her) and gave me a direct quote from her. I understand why she dislikes me...I feel like everything is all my fault.
He wasn't mean today. He didn't call me names or berate me at all... I don't know what I should do. I'm so tired.
I feel so guilty. He says he is depressed and miserable because of this. He told me how his grandmother dislikes me (he takes care of her) and gave me a direct quote from her. I understand why she dislikes me...I feel like everything is all my fault.
He wasn't mean today. He didn't call me names or berate me at all... I don't know what I should do. I'm so tired.
Just because he goes one, or even two or three days w/o being mean doesn't mean he's changed. That's typical abuser behavior.
One thing all abusers have in common is making us feel guilty. You can choose to not accept that guilt. Just because he says his grandmother dislikes you ,doesn't make it so. They LIE ALL THE TIME.
Please get some counseling to help you rebuild your self esteem. Also check w/your local shelter for references for therapists who are trained in dealing w/the after affects of abuse.
THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
I feel so guilty right now. He says I am wasting his time (it is his spring break from college this week).
Take care and God bless.