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Wolf's Daily Howl:
Canadian teen commits suicide after alleged rape, bullying
By Paula Newton, CNN
updated 5:31 PM EDT, Wed April 10, 2013
Ottawa, Canada (CNN) -- The family of a teenager who committed suicide after she was allegedly gang-raped and bullied is urging Canadian officials to reconsider filing criminal charges.
Rehtaeh Parsons, a 17-year-old high school student from Halifax, Nova Scotia, was taken off life support on Sunday, three days after she tried to hang herself. Her family told CNN they met with Canadian justice officials on Wednesday and the officials assured them they would take a fresh look at filing charges.
The teen was bullied for more than a year after the alleged sexual assault, which happened in November 2011 when she was 15, her family said.
Authorities confirmed that a photograph allegedly showing Parsons having sex with one of the boys was circulated to friends' mobile phones and computers. As a result, her family said she developed suicidal thoughts.
She also struggled emotionally after the police investigation ended without criminal charges, her mother, Leah Parsons, wrote on her Facebook tribute page.
"Rehtaeh is gone today because of the four boys that thought that raping a 15-year-old girl was OK and to distribute a photo to ruin her spirit and reputation would be fun," her mother wrote. "All the bullying and messaging and harassment that never let up are also to blame. Lastly, the justice system failed her. Those are the people that took the life of my beautiful girl."
How to help young rape victims
Disseminating such a picture -- even if the sexual encounter was consensual -- is considered child pornography under Canadian law. However, a joint investigation by Royal Canadian Mounted Police and local authorities found "insufficient evidence to proceed with charges," according RCMP spokesman Cpl. Scott MacRae.
"There are factors in determining other than the picture itself; ages, who sent the material, computers, so it's complex," MacRae said. "We do understand people want the answers and the big question here is why was it done or why weren't there charges and we understand that. We're not trying to deflect blame or not be accountable."
The Parsons family said they hope their story helps families going through the same pain.
Her funeral will be Saturday, her mother said.
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How many precious souls must be lost
before we can figure out a way to
STOP THIS FROM HAPPENING???????
Wolf's Daily Howl:
Canadian teen commits suicide after alleged rape, bullying
By Paula Newton, CNN
updated 5:31 PM EDT, Wed April 10, 2013
Ottawa, Canada (CNN) -- The family of a teenager who committed suicide after she was allegedly gang-raped and bullied is urging Canadian officials to reconsider filing criminal charges.
Rehtaeh Parsons, a 17-year-old high school student from Halifax, Nova Scotia, was taken off life support on Sunday, three days after she tried to hang herself. Her family told CNN they met with Canadian justice officials on Wednesday and the officials assured them they would take a fresh look at filing charges.
The teen was bullied for more than a year after the alleged sexual assault, which happened in November 2011 when she was 15, her family said.
Authorities confirmed that a photograph allegedly showing Parsons having sex with one of the boys was circulated to friends' mobile phones and computers. As a result, her family said she developed suicidal thoughts.
She also struggled emotionally after the police investigation ended without criminal charges, her mother, Leah Parsons, wrote on her Facebook tribute page.
"Rehtaeh is gone today because of the four boys that thought that raping a 15-year-old girl was OK and to distribute a photo to ruin her spirit and reputation would be fun," her mother wrote. "All the bullying and messaging and harassment that never let up are also to blame. Lastly, the justice system failed her. Those are the people that took the life of my beautiful girl."
How to help young rape victims
Disseminating such a picture -- even if the sexual encounter was consensual -- is considered child pornography under Canadian law. However, a joint investigation by Royal Canadian Mounted Police and local authorities found "insufficient evidence to proceed with charges," according RCMP spokesman Cpl. Scott MacRae.
"There are factors in determining other than the picture itself; ages, who sent the material, computers, so it's complex," MacRae said. "We do understand people want the answers and the big question here is why was it done or why weren't there charges and we understand that. We're not trying to deflect blame or not be accountable."
The Parsons family said they hope their story helps families going through the same pain.
Her funeral will be Saturday, her mother said.
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How many precious souls must be lost
before we can figure out a way to
STOP THIS FROM HAPPENING???????
police investigation,
it's probable her
parents knew from
she was raped or
soon after.
I am struggling with this part. Everyone is pointing fingers and blaming everybody else for the cyber bullying.
I know I don't know all of the story, but this all must have happened in her bedroom. Is she a smiley happy girl while she is sinking deeper and deeper into depression???
Wouldn't there have been some kind of signs? Would you leave your daughter in her room for hours on end, especially because of what all went on before, and not at least check on what is on the computer?
If someone is going to cyber bully anybody, and it would be easy to do, how do you stop it?
We can only control what WE do. we can't control other people. Maybe kids should be taught to take care of themselves instead of waiting till something happens and blame the cops, the school or anybody else. I hate bullies and it is not right for anybody to bully, but we can't control them.
We could do something drastic like turn off the computer or just sit next to the one being bullied so she doesn't go to the places where she is being bullied from. Teach kids to take care of themselves, even by simply turning off the computer. It makes me sick that this was going on in her bedroom.
Bullies only keep bullying as long as they get something from it. If bullies don't get attention from it, they stop. At least the incidents I have witnessed.
Ilene,
Can you help me out a little on my questions?
The whole thing is horrible, confusing and unnecessary.
I don't have answers to your questions.
All I know is that she was a child
who was raped and then humiliated.
I was a child who was
abused in the safety
of my home and then
bullied by my peers.
I don't have answers,
except that I survived.
I survived
and
finally
I triumphed.
I was lucky.
She was not.