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From today's "Wolf's Daily Howl"
Hello Gentlefolk ----
Did anyone see Wednesday's Oprah?
Here in Connecticut, a pet chimpanzee attacked a woman. The chimp's owner had called her friend (who was also an employee) to help her manage the 200-pound chimp, who'd gotten out of control. (It wasn't the first time. Police had intervened in its capture at least once before.)
When the owner's friend arrived, the out-of-control animal attacked her. It ripped her face and hands off, as it would do in the wild, protecting itself.
Pictures of the victim before the attack, Charla Nash, mother of a teen-age daughter,, showed a 55 year-old woman with a sweet, open smile.
Charla Nash, survived the attack. She is blind, handless, and faceless. Surgeons reconnected one thumb.
Charla appeared on Oprah. Candidly, I only saw clips.
From the time I saw the picturs of Charla taken before the attack, my heart broke for her. Now, when I'm having a down day, I touch a finger to my over-sized nose. I touch a finger to the lids of my closed eyes. I brush my finger across my lips. I count each and every finger.
Charla talked about getting on with her life. She's due for a face transplant; maybe she'll get some kind of hands attached at some point.
My prayers go out to Charla and her daughter.
When her friend called her, Charla didn't know how dangerous an out-of-control 200-pound chimpanzee could be. She was loyal and helpful and her alarm bells didn't go off ------ no different than so many of us dealing with out-of-control 200-pound homosapiens.
Survival demands alarm bells and healthy boundaries. We have to be able to say, NO!" And we have to think about our boundaries before a crisis and know how we'll protect them.
Good boundaris. . . . . all!
Ilene
Hello Gentlefolk ----
Did anyone see Wednesday's Oprah?
Here in Connecticut, a pet chimpanzee attacked a woman. The chimp's owner had called her friend (who was also an employee) to help her manage the 200-pound chimp, who'd gotten out of control. (It wasn't the first time. Police had intervened in its capture at least once before.)
When the owner's friend arrived, the out-of-control animal attacked her. It ripped her face and hands off, as it would do in the wild, protecting itself.
Pictures of the victim before the attack, Charla Nash, mother of a teen-age daughter,, showed a 55 year-old woman with a sweet, open smile.
Charla Nash, survived the attack. She is blind, handless, and faceless. Surgeons reconnected one thumb.
Charla appeared on Oprah. Candidly, I only saw clips.
From the time I saw the picturs of Charla taken before the attack, my heart broke for her. Now, when I'm having a down day, I touch a finger to my over-sized nose. I touch a finger to the lids of my closed eyes. I brush my finger across my lips. I count each and every finger.
Charla talked about getting on with her life. She's due for a face transplant; maybe she'll get some kind of hands attached at some point.
My prayers go out to Charla and her daughter.
When her friend called her, Charla didn't know how dangerous an out-of-control 200-pound chimpanzee could be. She was loyal and helpful and her alarm bells didn't go off ------ no different than so many of us dealing with out-of-control 200-pound homosapiens.
Survival demands alarm bells and healthy boundaries. We have to be able to say, NO!" And we have to think about our boundaries before a crisis and know how we'll protect them.
Good boundaris. . . . . all!
Ilene
Always I was seeking balance.
But without boundaries there is no balance.
The ugly legal part isn't over either. Charla is suing her former friend for $50 million. To me it is ironic then that her friend wished Charla a "full recovery", as if such a thing is even possible after losing what she lost...
Boundaries and gratefulness for what we have...yup.
And yes... I let him violate many of my boundaries. I am now starting to remember what those boundaries were. One of them that really sticks out is that I remember when I was fairly young (around 10 probably) I promised myself that if a man ever hit me I would leave him and never look back. When my ex punched me in the arm out of anger I thought about that promise to myself. But the next morning I went crawling to him as if I was the one who had done something wrong. How did he get me to break that promise to myself? Years of training...