Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
today I am writing because I know about my abuse, its been going on for awhile, I haven't wrote about it because I just want it all to get better, I am not ready to end it, but I do want support.
Yesterday, I did my usual, was combing and braiding his hair, he was irritated already by something, who knows what he was irritated by, but he was quiet. well when I was done braiding his hair, he just got up and walked off. Usually there is a hug and kiss, thank you said. So i just left the room, and went sit outside, got some fresh air, and cooled off. When I was finally settled down, I went back inside and his hair was down. So I was upset, because first of all his hair is thick, and it takes me a long time to comb his hair. So I told him go find someone who will comb your hair the way he want. He came at me and pushed me into the wall, not hard but all the same he pushed me. and called me a "fat b**ch" then we hollered at each other for awhile, then I locked myself in the restroom.
I thought of making him leave, I even told him to leave, but in the end I let him stay.
Needless to say after all the rough handling, he immediately got violently sick the rest of the day...I want to think that my Lord was looking out for me.
My thinking is I have to watch out for myself, and be safe when doing this, right now its not good for me to leave him, but I need to make a plan on how to do this.
It will be inconvenient in the end for both of us, but I have my children to think about and I have to make sure they are safe too.
Yesterday, I did my usual, was combing and braiding his hair, he was irritated already by something, who knows what he was irritated by, but he was quiet. well when I was done braiding his hair, he just got up and walked off. Usually there is a hug and kiss, thank you said. So i just left the room, and went sit outside, got some fresh air, and cooled off. When I was finally settled down, I went back inside and his hair was down. So I was upset, because first of all his hair is thick, and it takes me a long time to comb his hair. So I told him go find someone who will comb your hair the way he want. He came at me and pushed me into the wall, not hard but all the same he pushed me. and called me a "fat b**ch" then we hollered at each other for awhile, then I locked myself in the restroom.
I thought of making him leave, I even told him to leave, but in the end I let him stay.
Needless to say after all the rough handling, he immediately got violently sick the rest of the day...I want to think that my Lord was looking out for me.
My thinking is I have to watch out for myself, and be safe when doing this, right now its not good for me to leave him, but I need to make a plan on how to do this.
It will be inconvenient in the end for both of us, but I have my children to think about and I have to make sure they are safe too.
I'll never know what triggers him. Just that he has his good days and his bad days.
I will keep everyone updated. Thank you for your support.
you should NOT have to deal with this!!!!!
since you already know that you will have to leave him, but you are unable to do it at this time, then you do what you can not to escalate things. if you braid his hair and he takes it out, don't say anything. hard to do, but if you keep it in your mind that you will be leaving, then you know that you need to keep yourself safe while still living in the same place.
you know too, that if he hits you, you can call the police, have him taken out, get a restraining order/protection order. then, he won't be allowed back in the house.
stay safe-not right!
let him 'be right' for now, then when you get out and away from him, you can be the one who is right.
women's center and have
them help you develop a
SAFETY PLAN.
My mother used to always
say: God helps those
who help themself.
Please BE CAREFUL.
Sending you hugs and healing prayers.