Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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needafriendplease 10/20/2013

Im still struggling friends. Every day i feel the same. My eldest daughter came today and took me out for food. havent eaten or gone outside since last wednesday. I did eat a little bit , but cried a lot and had some strange looks off people at the restaurant. Couldnt wait to get home.
I dont know why im still missing my husband after all he has done, but i do. I wish i had a fast forward button or a time machine . This is killing me and making me ill. Got counceling tomorow . Lets hope it helps

RockinBunny 10/20/2013

So sorry, need :(

I know it is so tough, but just take it minute by minute, and day by day. Try to be patient with yourself. You are going through grieving, and unfortunately there is no set time frame for that. It will happen when it happens. Please do not beat yourself up for missing him. You are a good and normal person. He is not. In these kinds of relationships, the love is real from our side but not from theirs. We need to allow ourselves to recover when it ends, even if they seem like robots and carry on regardless. We need to heal.

Know that is probs not what you want to hear right now, but it will get better. Wish you all the best for a helpful counselling session tomorrow.

Big hugs and thinking of you xx

RockinBunny 10/20/2013

Forgot to say - glad you ate some! Even a little each day will help keep your strength up. FarAndAway suggested soup recently. That is a great choice. Homemade is lovely, but even purchased will give you something inside. xx

JOYHOLY 10/20/2013

HELLO GIVE YOURSELF TIME, I READ SOMEWHERE THAT SEPARATION FROM A SPOUSE IS LIKE BEING A WIDOW, YOU ARE GRIEVING, SO LET GO OF THE FEELINGS ,EMOTIONS, AND START TO HEAL, BE STRONG , TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, EAT, TAKE A NICE BATH, WALK, AND LOOK FOR THE SUNSHINE, TIME WILL HEAL YOU, LOVE L*****

deleted_user 10/20/2013

It has almost been 6 weeks that I am out and even though I made a huge stack of clarifying cards today.... I miss the concept of him and being married, etc... I miss stupid stuff.... I don't miss being yelled at, having to do everything his way, all the other silly crazy petty behaviors.

I worry about him . I care about him... but I do not miss "HIM."
I still want to go home and I talk about him all day long and think about him... it is sickening even to me....
so I understand.
i don't think it goes away -just like that----
It was our lives-- we did not die--- we have to continue forward--- but hopefully we have to put the abuse to the past and learn new ways to cope an live--- hopefully better ways

whyme123 10/20/2013

Yellow, please eat, put makeup on (if you wear it), get dressed extra pretty (something as simple as a funky blouse with slacks) AND LIVE. It will get easier but you have to live through it. I hope each day gets a little better. (((((Hugs)))))

FarAndAway 10/21/2013

Sending strength your way. I hope the counseling helps you get some of it out. xx

BooClouds 10/21/2013

Counseling tomorrow sounds like a step in the right direction. You have been through a lot so just take everything in baby steps.

(((Lots if hugs.)))

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