It's great that you're starting counseling. I just wanted to say that I left 8 years ago and I never imagined it would take so long to feel better either. I think the key is to be really good to ourselves and practice self care. Something I never really learned. I hope the counseling helps you move forward.

its not like he was a good person who made promises that he broke, the good guy never existed, the promises never existed, it was all a fraud, you have to realize that the future is gone w/that man, and that the past is trying to show you, you deserve happiness

once i realized and accepted my ex was phony, the rest was easier, it was like i was in a movie and he only played a script/part....nothing was real...let it go, find happiness..

Healing is work.

The work is worth it.

It can take an investment
of money. It certainly takes
effort and time.

The intense pain will
go away. Some pain
may remain and
surface at unexpected
moments.

But eventually the
proportion of
pain from the past
to joy in the present
diminshishes to
bearable and finally
negligable.

At some point when
you remember him
it'll just be like a
cough or a hiccup.
It comes and goes
and your better day
is the biggest thing
in your mind.

Don't give up on the
counseling. If you
find that what you're
experiencing is too
intense at any point
in time, tell the counselor.

Sending you hugs
and wishes for
healing and
happiness.