Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
" I did something i shouldnt have done. my husband made me block some male friends on face book when i was with him. Now that he is gone i unblocked them. one of them ive known for 18 yrs , it was a guy i used to work with back then and we did have a fling. which we ended on good terms back then. something i was open about with my husband. My husband didnt like this so he had me block him.
Now since i unblocked him we got chatting and he asked me out for a chat as friends. I went and we had nice chat but he was all over me and it was something i was not ready for. he hugged and kissed me before we said goodbye and gave me a bunch of flowers. I was not attracted to him and As i was driving home i knew i wouldnt meet him again but would just chat on facebook. I told him it was all to much to soon.
Anyway, my husband today was again waiting for me after work and he told me he had a video of me kissing that guy and that he gave me flowers. How would he know? i checked i wasnt followed.. .I told him whatever i do now has nothing to do with him. I told him he is the one that ruined our marriage. I got my phone out to ring police and he went. Now tonight he was hammering my door and throwing stones up at the window. I rang ploice and opened the window. He shouted up and said i know your with that guy, and your talking to him on facebook. He even knew some of the conversation i had with my friend. how?
I have just changed all passwords but i know he never had any of my previous ones anyway . How can he know all this? and after all he has done to me he is more concerned now about what im doing. "
Now since i unblocked him we got chatting and he asked me out for a chat as friends. I went and we had nice chat but he was all over me and it was something i was not ready for. he hugged and kissed me before we said goodbye and gave me a bunch of flowers. I was not attracted to him and As i was driving home i knew i wouldnt meet him again but would just chat on facebook. I told him it was all to much to soon.
Anyway, my husband today was again waiting for me after work and he told me he had a video of me kissing that guy and that he gave me flowers. How would he know? i checked i wasnt followed.. .I told him whatever i do now has nothing to do with him. I told him he is the one that ruined our marriage. I got my phone out to ring police and he went. Now tonight he was hammering my door and throwing stones up at the window. I rang ploice and opened the window. He shouted up and said i know your with that guy, and your talking to him on facebook. He even knew some of the conversation i had with my friend. how?
I have just changed all passwords but i know he never had any of my previous ones anyway . How can he know all this? and after all he has done to me he is more concerned now about what im doing. "
His behavior has certainly reached dangerous levels. If you don't have a restraining order yet, you should look into one (I don't really know your story very well so my apologies if this is redundant information).
Also document ALL this behavior, and contact authorities regarding some kind of restraining order. This is SCARY stuff.
And yes, he is more concerned about your behaviour because that's the way they think. You are and always will be his possession, while he is a human being with needs and desires which he is perfectly entitled to fulfill. Which is why it was a minor transgression at worst for him to be out with another woman, but it will always be a HUGE deal if you ever see another man.
Please do be careful, he sounds dangerous. And I'm glad you are reporting this behaviour to the police.