Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Someone on here had mentioned that my ex had probably not contacted me for 4 days because he was understanding that I had strong boundaries. I did not return his call last Monday. Then he called Saturday morning and I let that go..but he got me at work with a private number. I talked with him long enough to get myself upset over possible tax fraud and him talking about trying to ride my horse on which he was already hurt and had to get stitches as he tried to ride him wo my permission with no bridle or saddle. He said he would just come down while I was at work and do it. Then he asked me to call after work he wanted to see me. I did not. I was a mess all day worrying he would call. He didn't. Now he is calling today. I have been intermittently shutting my phone off and in bed with a migraine. In the voicemail he did not sound angry just normal so why am I on edge? I just want to disappear.
I am a big believer in the mind body connection. IMHO, you're on edge because your body & your gut are warning you about him. Our bodies are the best measure of how we're feeling and the best sense of whether its ok to be around/with someone.
All I can suggest is listen to your body. If it's right to be in contact w/him and/or around him, then your body will show it by feeling at ease and relaxed. If it's not, it will be tense & nervous, in pain (or other types of illnesses) &/or stressed out.
Him contacting you at work and bringing up riding the horse & tax stuff is direct and purposeful tactic to get you off balance and upset.
Please practice self love and self care.
~Big Hugs~
((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))
he is
VIOLATING EVERY BOUNDARY.
He DOES NOT
have to sound angry
to be a danger to you.
He is a violator being
"just 'normal.'"
Take care of yourself
and feel better!
Sending you hugs
and healing prayers.