Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I am getting more and more pissed off at my husband lately. He is so miserable and keeps taking it out on my. He is verbally abusive and will be in a great mood on the phone and then the second he walks in the door he is miserable. He complains about every little thing. If something is not done, he gets pissed. But, he does not realize that I do 100 times more than him in a day, but because his job is physical - he works so much harder - yeah right!!! He could never do what I do in a day, but the difference is that I don't complain- I just do it.
He is not involved in our son's life at all, and spends very little time with him. Basically, he is a roommate.
He keeps telling me that I need to lose weight (which is true) - but he does as well.
We had sex the other night and it was the first time in about 2 months. After that, he told me I that I needed to exercise more - give me a break!!!!
Just when I think things are getting better and we are getting along, he turns into psycho man and makes our lives miserable.
The only saving grace is that he is hardly home and when he is, he is much of a loner. He works a lot of hours and maybe does so on purpose.
I wish I could be stronger. I am going through so much with our son, who has some issues of his own and I get absolutely no support from my husband - as a matter of fact, I hide a lot from him because I am worried he will react in a way that will be the opposite of helpful!!!
I am just frustrated and can't take much more - I really just want him out of my life completely - he is pissing me off more and more, and maybe I will get to the point that I just want to leave.
Just needed to vent - thanks
He is not involved in our son's life at all, and spends very little time with him. Basically, he is a roommate.
He keeps telling me that I need to lose weight (which is true) - but he does as well.
We had sex the other night and it was the first time in about 2 months. After that, he told me I that I needed to exercise more - give me a break!!!!
Just when I think things are getting better and we are getting along, he turns into psycho man and makes our lives miserable.
The only saving grace is that he is hardly home and when he is, he is much of a loner. He works a lot of hours and maybe does so on purpose.
I wish I could be stronger. I am going through so much with our son, who has some issues of his own and I get absolutely no support from my husband - as a matter of fact, I hide a lot from him because I am worried he will react in a way that will be the opposite of helpful!!!
I am just frustrated and can't take much more - I really just want him out of my life completely - he is pissing me off more and more, and maybe I will get to the point that I just want to leave.
Just needed to vent - thanks
All I can say, is there is so much more out there, and you can make a better life for yourself.
There will be struggles, there will be guilt, it will be hard but it will be worth it.
Topazmoon! what are you doing with my ex husband???!!!
You don't need to give him back, though....
I did my time!
((((hugs))))))
vent any time, and if one day you do decide that it's time for a better life, we're all here...
Wishing you all the best, and I'm sorry for your pain. But also - never, ever doubt your strength. There is not a woman or man on this board who is not strong. It takes a great deal to face the reality of the life you are living, it takes strength just to survive abuse, let alone to admit it to yourself and then reach out and admit it to others. And to be dealing with your son and other issues on top of that - do NOT ever doubt your courage or your strength.
Thanks again
the questions is WHAT are you going to do about it?
sounds like you are about at the end of your rope w/ him.
I used to hear the weight complaints too, all the while he was heavier and in worse shape. they project their self hate on us.
I feel for you. There is a solution: leave! It takes some hard baby steps to get started then a lot of prayers and guts but then it's really a relief. I'm serious. It's palpable relief.
I hope you will continue to learn more about abuse and will gain the strength and clarity you need to actually leave.
There are two books that will help you, why Does He Do That by Lundy bancroft and The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.
Life is so much better without abuse.