Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Jeez my husband is the most negative put-down man I have ever met.
Not only did he tell me last night that if I just lay still during sex he would be able to perform better (!) and I would achieve orgasm better....! ....'you just leave it to me darling' he says.
I did tell him that him growling at me to' hurry up and come' was a bit off putting but...not his fault, its mine for not coming!!! OMG!
I was so shocked how he thought that was a decent thing to say. I was speechless.
The time he is reffering to is because I was squirming trying to get him to hit the spot - I was so frustrated. But according to him its all my own fault!
No idea how to respond to that.
and then he tutted and rolled his eyes at how useless I am at completing an application form for a house we hope to rent. in his eyes I did it all wrong.
Its not that he comes out and says I am rubbish or useless, its the way he looks and tuts and walks off shaking his head. He does it to everyone, the last person who worked with him in the office had to leave as her self-esteem was so beaten down she was in tears nearly every day - thats exactly what he does to me!!!
How do I let him make me feel that way!
Gawd...jeez.
so cross with myself.
Not only did he tell me last night that if I just lay still during sex he would be able to perform better (!) and I would achieve orgasm better....! ....'you just leave it to me darling' he says.
I did tell him that him growling at me to' hurry up and come' was a bit off putting but...not his fault, its mine for not coming!!! OMG!
I was so shocked how he thought that was a decent thing to say. I was speechless.
The time he is reffering to is because I was squirming trying to get him to hit the spot - I was so frustrated. But according to him its all my own fault!
No idea how to respond to that.
and then he tutted and rolled his eyes at how useless I am at completing an application form for a house we hope to rent. in his eyes I did it all wrong.
Its not that he comes out and says I am rubbish or useless, its the way he looks and tuts and walks off shaking his head. He does it to everyone, the last person who worked with him in the office had to leave as her self-esteem was so beaten down she was in tears nearly every day - thats exactly what he does to me!!!
How do I let him make me feel that way!
Gawd...jeez.
so cross with myself.
I am working on this as best I can.
I have no idea how to go about counselling, I feel if I take the lid off the box it will open a whole bag of stuff Im not comfortable with facing.
Even if I need to!
Which reminds me - I haven't been to the dentist in a while, dang it. :)
Lately I've been taking a long look, along with my husband, at all the damage we've done to ourselves and each other, or had done to us, while we were busy trying to avoid going through the pain of facing our issues.
It just compounds, wounds on top of wounds, gaping and getting infected, while we run through barbed wire trying to get away.
Turning around and facing it is the first step in finally healing.
I will look into it, the UK its quite tricky to get counselling...