Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Today my x room mate called.First mistake I made was that I picked up the call..She said that my x had mailed her (she knows him through me) and she said that he was sad that it's over and she responded back by saying that he will get better oppurtunity in life and to move on.(I had particularly told her that I will not prefer that she keep any kinda contact with him)...
Why do I get people like this around me...Why??What did she get by hurting me??
Anyways I have lost my faith in humanity...People just use other people..
Why do I get people like this around me...Why??What did she get by hurting me??
Anyways I have lost my faith in humanity...People just use other people..
Abusers often round up the troops to take their side in an effort to hurt you further, and to get everyone to feel sorry for them.
SHE on the other hand is...I'm sorry...an IDIOT. What a jerk to not only pass on the information, but to email him such BS back. She didn't honor or respect your request...bye bye to her! She likely got off on the drama of it all, some people are that way...best to stay away.
You get people around this like you because you are a caring person...it's not your fault, but abusers do target us because of our goodness and compassion.
But you know what? I don't want to lose those traits, I embrace them, despite having been victimized. There are enough a-holes in the world, I'm not going to become one just just to fit in. lol
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There are good folks out there, these forums are loaded with them. I look at this stuff as a lesson, a good sharpening of our 'red flag' radar. Your good qualities will be appreciated by people who truly deserve them.
Sorry you had to be subjected to such nonsense. Hope your day gets better! (hugs)
Unfortunately I know this feeling all to well, and it is very hard to deal with. It's as painful as the abuse we experience from our abuser.
You don't deserve her comments and non-support. You deserve to be heard and understood, and respected. The validation and support you deserve can be found in this group. We feel your pain and understand how much it hurts. You're not alone.
No one knows your ex like you do. Make it clear to your friends that you don't want to hear about him, don't care about him, don't want to know about him. If they keep on discussing him it's time to put them on the "ignore list" of life.
Don't give up on humanity. Some people can be very kind and true friends to you, you just have to go out there and find them.
i know what you mean about feeling so fed up with people who let you down, and having to look and see what friends you really have, in my life, i got sucked into the abuse becaues i was being let down and isolated by takers in my life.
at least on this forum i find others are like me, they care, they have compassion they were troopers. ITs made me feel less alone
Her friend actually said "You can do better than her, anyhow" which was an attempt to politely say "move on, it's over".
The answer "I'm a package deal, it's over with her so please do not bother me too" was probably the one you wanted her to give.
If she meant what she said to him then your friend does not think very highly of you, does she?
I hope you get this sorted out.
Your not losing anything in her clearly. cut her off and block her too. A real friend...will NOT continually come tellin tales about him anyhow...our real friends know that it is not helpful to us in any way when we leave and try to sever ties. they dont perpetuate it by telling us that they have seen them, talked to them.etc...
She was never a good friend...and after what she said to my ex..We will not even be friends anymore...
I just want to block all such people from my life.I hope I will succeed in that.
I am just feeling soooo exhausted...like my ex's betlittling me wasn't enough that she joined in...
But my quota of pain isn't yet over...So bring it on life...This time I am ready...