I read this interesting article and wanted to share with all..
Below are some of the signs that tells you that you are/were in an abusive relations..

Using Intimidation
Making your partner afraid by using looks, actions, gestures.
Smashing or destroying things.
Destroying or confiscating your partner's property.
Abusing pets as a display of power and control.
Silent or overt raging.
Displaying weapons or threatening their use.
Making physical threats.


Using Emotional Abuse
Putting your partner down.
Making your partner feel bad about himself or herself.
Calling your partner names.
Playing mind games.
Interrogating your partner.
Harassing or intimidating your partner.
"Checking up on" your partner's activities or whereabouts.
Humiliating your partner, weather through direct attacks or "jokes".
Making your partner feel guilty.
Shaming your partner.


Using Isolation
Controlling what your partner does, who he or she sees and talks to, what he or she reads, where he or she goes.
Limiting your partners outside involvement.
Demanding your partner remains home when you are not with them.
Cutting your partner off from prior friends, activities, and social interaction.
Using jealousy to justify your actions.


Minimizing, Denying and Blame Shifting
Making light of the abuse and not taking your partners concerns about it seriously.
Saying the abuse did not happen, or wasn't that bad.
Shifting responsibility for your abusive behavior to your partner. (i.e.: I did it because you ______.)
Saying your partner caused it.


Using Children
Making your partner feel guilty about the children.
Using the children to relay messages.
Using visitation to harass your partner.
Threatening to take the children away.


Using Male Privilege
Treating your partner like a servant.
Making all the big decisions.
Acting like the "master of the castle."
Being the one to define mens and womens or the relationship's roles.


Using Economic Abuse
Preventing your partner from getting or keeping a job.
Making your partner ask for money.
Giving your partner an allowance.
Taking your partners money.
Not letting your partner know about or have access to family income