Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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I don't know what to do. I need some Other Opinions about what I should do. I discovered this Morning - once I got Online - that My BF has been Messaging ONE WOMAN in Particular a LOT on His Tagged.com Site. The Thing is - and I realize that maybe this is Wrong of Me to use this - that He NEVER Logs OUT of His Tagged.com Web Site, so anytime I'm Online I can pull up through My Computer's History His Tagged.com Web Site - IF He's visited it recently. I can View EVERYTHING On His Tagged Site... so since I saw that He was just On it This Morning, I was curious. I found out that He's been Messaging ONE WOMAN in PARTICULAR A LOT LATELY ! In Fact, He's been saying things in the Messages like... " I REALLY WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER... I REALLY LOVE BBWS, AND YOU'RE VERY SEXY ! I WANT TO CALL YOU SOON ! "
So, OBVIOUSLY something is up ! He's SWORN to Me that His Tagged.com Web Site is for " ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY " ! But this sounds to Me like things are going WAY TOO FAR ! In a couple of the Messages to HER He's even talked about how MUCH He wants to PLEASE HER ! He's PROMISED ME that He would NEVER CALL ANY WOMAN that He chats with Online ! Well...Apparently He's been LYING TO ME ! Just to Point Out something... that Statement He gave Me about the Tagged.com site being for ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY He made when I asked Him WHY He put on that site that He's SINGLE, AND THERE FOR FRIENDS AND DATING !!!!
I wanted so MUCH to believe that He was being Honest with Me about that, but now the TRUTH is staring Me in the FACE, and I don't know what to do ! I WANT SO MUCH TO CONFRONT HIM !
BUT.. With HIS RAGE PROBLEM, that would probably NOT be a Great Idea ! The Very FIRST Thing He would Point OUT would be that I SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN ' SNOOPING AROUND ' in His Tagged.com Web Site in the First Place ! While perhaps, that's True... that still WOULD NOT CHANGE the FACT that He SHOULD NOT BE MESSING AROUND like He obviously has been !
At the Risk of sounding Very Stupid, NOW I see how RIGHT I was about being AFRAID that He INSISTED ON GETTING A CELL PHONE TO BE ABLE TO CALL OTHER WOMEN ! I WISH I HADN'T BEEN RIGHT ABOUT THAT ! It's going to be VERY HARD for Me to NOT SNICKER, and probably have a STRANGE LOOK on My FACE Next Time He says ANYTHING about How Many MINUTES He's used up so far this Month on His Cell Phone !
WHAT DO I DO ? If I confront Him about this Woman... WHAT GOOD WILL IT DO ????
BUT... IF I don't confront Him, then keeping this to Myself is going to drive Me NUTS !
So, OBVIOUSLY something is up ! He's SWORN to Me that His Tagged.com Web Site is for " ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY " ! But this sounds to Me like things are going WAY TOO FAR ! In a couple of the Messages to HER He's even talked about how MUCH He wants to PLEASE HER ! He's PROMISED ME that He would NEVER CALL ANY WOMAN that He chats with Online ! Well...Apparently He's been LYING TO ME ! Just to Point Out something... that Statement He gave Me about the Tagged.com site being for ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY He made when I asked Him WHY He put on that site that He's SINGLE, AND THERE FOR FRIENDS AND DATING !!!!
I wanted so MUCH to believe that He was being Honest with Me about that, but now the TRUTH is staring Me in the FACE, and I don't know what to do ! I WANT SO MUCH TO CONFRONT HIM !
BUT.. With HIS RAGE PROBLEM, that would probably NOT be a Great Idea ! The Very FIRST Thing He would Point OUT would be that I SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN ' SNOOPING AROUND ' in His Tagged.com Web Site in the First Place ! While perhaps, that's True... that still WOULD NOT CHANGE the FACT that He SHOULD NOT BE MESSING AROUND like He obviously has been !
At the Risk of sounding Very Stupid, NOW I see how RIGHT I was about being AFRAID that He INSISTED ON GETTING A CELL PHONE TO BE ABLE TO CALL OTHER WOMEN ! I WISH I HADN'T BEEN RIGHT ABOUT THAT ! It's going to be VERY HARD for Me to NOT SNICKER, and probably have a STRANGE LOOK on My FACE Next Time He says ANYTHING about How Many MINUTES He's used up so far this Month on His Cell Phone !
WHAT DO I DO ? If I confront Him about this Woman... WHAT GOOD WILL IT DO ????
BUT... IF I don't confront Him, then keeping this to Myself is going to drive Me NUTS !
I am so sorry you are going through this. Please stay safe.
You need to read the book "He's Just Not That into You". It's a short book (I cheated a little and read it while in the book store). It's written by a MAN with a man's viewpoint and gives simple explanations of their behaviour. Read it!!! They really are very simple in their thinking and they avoid confrontations at ALL costs, even if it means lying their a** off or passing the BLAME to us!
Please forgive me for being harsh here but you'll know without a doubt that your BF doesn't really care how you feel and you need to move on. That's exactly what your BF is trying to do! He just doesn't have the B*lls to tell you.
YOU DESERVE BETTER! There are good men out there! He just isn't one of them. Let him go and you'll be glad you did! YOU GO, GIRL! Get your life back! We're stronger than they are! Always have been....
Good Luck!
He's cheating, honey, and you can't continue to let him treat you this way. He has no respect for you but you must have enough respect for yourself to say NO MORE! He's a MONSTER, a BAD, BAD excuse for a human being!! You're worth more than this and deserve a better life. He's NOT gonna change!