Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was in a very abusive relationship for over 17 years...Physical, emotional, sexual, financial, any way he could hurt me ...he did...
I made excuses for him, I found reasons to keep trying, I did all I could to be the perfect wife and mother, he was never satisfied.
He was perfect at lies, and manipulation, I lost many friends and family members over my marriage.
I was in the hospital numerous times. Then he hit both my children within days of each other...punched my teen son so hard in the stomach he feel to the ground and couldn't breath (over a spilling a glass of pop), then he punched my teen daughter in the face at the supper table knocking her off her chair and giving her a black eye (because she asked if she could shower in the upstairs bath before school the next morning)...
I had stayed for the kids...now I had to leave for them.
With the help of the RCMP (and a tazer) I was able to leave with the children to a safe house...(just over 3 years ago)
I made it out but he still may have his way...he may see me dead by his hand...
At the time the head shots may have caused bumps, bruises, black eyes, broken bones, even a punctured sinus...
But a year and a half ago I was diagnosed with multiple brain aneurysms (they can be caused by head trauma/stress). I have had one craniotomy and face another to save my life...Any minute could be one of my last...and I made it away from him!
In my heart I feel staying may have caused them...
The punch to the head last night may show a black eye today...
but what will it show months from now?
Could you end up in my shoes?
Would it be worth that last day of trying to please him?
Don't let him hurt you!!
Your life is precious! Your children are precious!
You have a future! They have a future!!
Don't let it involve brain surgery, or worse...death...it can only take one hit !
Please don't try to stand in my shoes...there is support and help! Speak up! He is bad---NOT YOU!!!
Save Yourself!!!
Find a way!
You are worth more!!!
I made excuses for him, I found reasons to keep trying, I did all I could to be the perfect wife and mother, he was never satisfied.
He was perfect at lies, and manipulation, I lost many friends and family members over my marriage.
I was in the hospital numerous times. Then he hit both my children within days of each other...punched my teen son so hard in the stomach he feel to the ground and couldn't breath (over a spilling a glass of pop), then he punched my teen daughter in the face at the supper table knocking her off her chair and giving her a black eye (because she asked if she could shower in the upstairs bath before school the next morning)...
I had stayed for the kids...now I had to leave for them.
With the help of the RCMP (and a tazer) I was able to leave with the children to a safe house...(just over 3 years ago)
I made it out but he still may have his way...he may see me dead by his hand...
At the time the head shots may have caused bumps, bruises, black eyes, broken bones, even a punctured sinus...
But a year and a half ago I was diagnosed with multiple brain aneurysms (they can be caused by head trauma/stress). I have had one craniotomy and face another to save my life...Any minute could be one of my last...and I made it away from him!
In my heart I feel staying may have caused them...
The punch to the head last night may show a black eye today...
but what will it show months from now?
Could you end up in my shoes?
Would it be worth that last day of trying to please him?
Don't let him hurt you!!
Your life is precious! Your children are precious!
You have a future! They have a future!!
Don't let it involve brain surgery, or worse...death...it can only take one hit !
Please don't try to stand in my shoes...there is support and help! Speak up! He is bad---NOT YOU!!!
Save Yourself!!!
Find a way!
You are worth more!!!
Great Big Gentle Hugs to You!!
It is scary to think that putting up with what he had to dish out then, means I may rupture taking a poop today! (the pressure may cause the aneurysm on the artery in my brain to burst, then life past that is questionable)
As far as my children go...The husband bought them off...I didn't stop visitation, he bought them new cars and street bikes, and they left. He was making over 200 000 a year and didn't give me a red cent. I have only seen them a couple times in the last year, they ignore my calls, e-mails, texts. I haven't even gotten a merry christmas or happy new year back...I kept hope that they would realize what they were doing, but...
Friday I found out..
Apparently he has a new lady and they are helping her plan a wedding ( funny since we are not even divorced yet). They are all over her facebook page as 'the kids', they all live together.
This new lady was online making fun of my brain surgery, saying 'Karma kicked me in the ass'
I cried all weekend...my children have chosen him and her over me...I am sitting on deaths doorstep...alone
I don't know what to do, I want to lash out and say something...
But all I can do is just let go...
When I think of it I feel the blood pulse in my head, and I don't want to die.
Any ideas as to what I could or should say or do?