OK - 2 issues here...

1) I discovered that he went through my cell phone again. I get my personal email on my cell, as well as have Facebook connection there. I had the cell phone charging in the bathroom while I was getting ready this morning. I use it to keep track of the time. Anyway, I was helping my son get his shoes on for school and noticed that H walked into my bathroom and shut the door. I initially thought, " I hope he's not long. Why didn't he use his own bathroom. I still have to finish gettng ready." I picked up my cell phone, and noticed that the settings were awry. I went to the email icon, and it was at the bottom of the list -- down to emails from a week ago. He totally looked all through my email account. I want to confront him, but I know it will cause an explosion. I guess I could do the passive-aggressive thing and password protect my phone so he can't get in anymore. It makes me so mad. There wasn't anything in there, but his insecurity is killing me! He expects me to "stay away from his stuff". He keeps his own phone password protected. I keep thinking that he fears that I am hiding something because he is. (then I think... OMG is he?)

2) Several weeks ago, I posted a discussion about having to tell my H someting, and being afraid to do so. I'm such a wimp. I still haven't told him. I know I need to. I really just want to do it via email since he'll have time to stew on it for a while, and I might get to avoid the biggest of the explosion, and I just have to deal with the fallout. How pathetic is it that I can't even talk to him and would rather do it via email? So, knowing that I have to talk to him about it, would it be better if I laid it all out in an email? I can plan what I want to say better this way too.