Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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ishaRelive 07/18/2009

My x has sent an invite on my orkut to add him...(He wrote-You can reject reject it or I hope we can still remain in touch as frineds),I had deleted him from my friends list about 2 months back...

I am just confused should I reject it or keep it hanging there??What if sends the request again if I reject..

Why do I feel scared to reject it?
Maybe coz I know if I did something against his will he would just blast me...

A bit in dilemma..Reject or keep it hanging...

deleted_user 07/18/2009

Yes ignore or delete block, the fact its caused u to stop doubt get on confused have feelings flashes of insecurity show its just another crack that will start to seep .

best of luck

deleted_user 07/18/2009

you could also make a list of what u gain from ignoring all this time and what u have stand to loose if u accept this crack in the wall

deleted_user 07/18/2009

There is no being friends with an abuser! He will use it to continue to hurt you. :(

deleted_user 07/18/2009

yeah, abusers don't have friends.......they only have people they abuse to make them feel good.

calmzone 07/18/2009

I'm not sure how it works on 'orkut', but personally, I would just ignore it. Unless it keeps popping up, and it bothers you, then just hit 'reject'.
You're nervous about rejecting it because we are used to catering to the emotional needs of our abusers, and the fear of not 'complying' with their wishes takes time to fade.

deleted_user 07/18/2009

Block him.

deleted_user 07/18/2009

I really find the comment about "abusers don't have friends, they only have people that they can use to make themselves feel good. this is really a profound truth that just sent me thinking like crazy
thanks

IleneW 07/18/2009

REJECT

BLOCK

NO CONTACT!

OUT
GONE
FLUSHED!!!!!!!!!!!

Tamehau 07/18/2009

I agree with everyone here REJECT. Each time you reject him it brings you closer to your healing and asserts your independence. Just remember, he wants to remain in your life to HURT you. This is the game, this is the plan. You cannot be friends with an abuser any more that you can be friends with a serial killer.

That is what this abuse is......emotional serial killing.

deleted_user 07/18/2009

Reject now and forever. They do not change

ishaRelive 07/19/2009

Rejected it...

Feeling Awesome..

It's like he had a power over me where I was scared to do anything that he didn't approve of...

NO LONGER....
Thanks all for your suggestions...Really helped me in taking the decision...

tryn2bhappy 07/19/2009

REJECT

calmzone 07/19/2009

woohoo, way to go isha! ;)

layersuponlayers 07/19/2009

reject it. you know that is what you should do.

ishaRelive 07/20/2009

Thanx CZ...

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