Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have taken a few back steps over the past few days. And cried like a baby in therapy today. So I thought I would follow Gem's early advice and re-read my earlier posts.
It was riveting. I laughed and I cried, mostly cried. But it was really helpful overall. Without sounding uppity, because I am a far throw from uppity I believe, there were two things that stood out the most in my re-read.
First and foremost, is the amount of care, support and patience I have received on this site. As some may recall, I had (and still kinda do) a hard time with classifying my situation as "abusive." And no matter how many times I questioned it, you lovely people did not chastise me or give up on me. For that alone, I am forever grateful. In the end, it doesn't matter what you call it, "it" was bad and it made me feel terribly bad and it had to end.
Secondly, I liked what I read about myself. I AM a caring, warm, thoughtful person. And, while I still have doubtful days, leaving my ex was the best move I could have chosen. He doesn't deserve "ME!" I am very far left (or right) from perfect...but basically I am a "good" soul.
For anyone who may be struggling, re-read your earlier posts. While hard, it might just make you feel a whole lot better about yourself and your situation.
Many thanks to all of you!!!
It was riveting. I laughed and I cried, mostly cried. But it was really helpful overall. Without sounding uppity, because I am a far throw from uppity I believe, there were two things that stood out the most in my re-read.
First and foremost, is the amount of care, support and patience I have received on this site. As some may recall, I had (and still kinda do) a hard time with classifying my situation as "abusive." And no matter how many times I questioned it, you lovely people did not chastise me or give up on me. For that alone, I am forever grateful. In the end, it doesn't matter what you call it, "it" was bad and it made me feel terribly bad and it had to end.
Secondly, I liked what I read about myself. I AM a caring, warm, thoughtful person. And, while I still have doubtful days, leaving my ex was the best move I could have chosen. He doesn't deserve "ME!" I am very far left (or right) from perfect...but basically I am a "good" soul.
For anyone who may be struggling, re-read your earlier posts. While hard, it might just make you feel a whole lot better about yourself and your situation.
Many thanks to all of you!!!
So glad you are feeling good and not wallowing in the little backslide you had. I have often found that a backslide is a precursor to a "great leap forward", like an arrow being pulled back on the bow, before being able to fly forward.