Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So next week is a big week for me. Thursday 7/25/13 I go in front of the judge to finalize my divorce. WOW!
Although the final divorce documents have the information on his requirement to pay 100% of my daughters daycare, he is not complying and has no intention on doing so after the divorce is final.
The problem I have with this, is that I don't think I am strong enough to enforce it...... =( I don't know if its because he is still in the house or what but I still feel like a scared child afraid to cause conflict because I fear that my kids will get stuck in the middle and I will look like the bad guy.
Everything is going pretty smoothly on the homefront end. We are still working (even though he is still living in the house, and asking me for sex, blah!) in the guides of the child sharing custody agreement and that is one week with him and one week with me. I have moved out of MY bedroom and I am sleeping on the couch, he doesn't seem to get why I can't sleep in the same bed with him. According to him we have been together 20 years and I would have no problem sleeping with my sister in the same bed, so to him he doesn't understand the difference.
I really am just buying my time until he closes on his house 8/26/13 so he can move out, then I will be doing my own thing and sleeping in MY bed. I can't wait.
Just wanted to give an update. Hoping for more strength to pursue the child support issue once he is gone.
Although the final divorce documents have the information on his requirement to pay 100% of my daughters daycare, he is not complying and has no intention on doing so after the divorce is final.
The problem I have with this, is that I don't think I am strong enough to enforce it...... =( I don't know if its because he is still in the house or what but I still feel like a scared child afraid to cause conflict because I fear that my kids will get stuck in the middle and I will look like the bad guy.
Everything is going pretty smoothly on the homefront end. We are still working (even though he is still living in the house, and asking me for sex, blah!) in the guides of the child sharing custody agreement and that is one week with him and one week with me. I have moved out of MY bedroom and I am sleeping on the couch, he doesn't seem to get why I can't sleep in the same bed with him. According to him we have been together 20 years and I would have no problem sleeping with my sister in the same bed, so to him he doesn't understand the difference.
I really am just buying my time until he closes on his house 8/26/13 so he can move out, then I will be doing my own thing and sleeping in MY bed. I can't wait.
Just wanted to give an update. Hoping for more strength to pursue the child support issue once he is gone.
I haven't been around for the back story, but I just have to ask WHY are you letting him stick around until he closes on his own house!? I'm concerned that this may put you in danger.
As for the daycare costs, he is not paying them for the express purpose of remaining a thorn in your side. You may not want to address it right away, but the reality is that he is going to get away with as much as you will let him, for as long as you tolerate it.
DO NOT, under any circumstances, TELL ANYONE you are thinking of doing this because he WILL get his employer to give him a 'cut in pay' or 'fire him' or pay him 'under the table' so they can't garnish any or all of his wages.
Just please stay safe till his house closes.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))
I can but I can't believe someone is so selfish. I get that he wants to try to hurt me, but he supposedly loves his kids, and he is a very smart man, yet he doesn't see that he is in actuality hurting his kids by keeping that money from me to take care of them.
He is so secretive now too (he didn't used to be that way)........ What's up with that? Does he think I care that much? He told the kids he has a surprise for them this Saturday and later on when the kids weren't around I said oh, that is so nice you are surprising the kids, where are you taking them (as I feel I have the right to know) and he said oh just to Parrish, I said oh? What are you going to do with them, and he hesitated and acted as if he didn't want to tell me. What is up with that? Does he think I am going to steal his idea? What a child.... .:(>