Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Joanieslegacy 05/13/2013

Maybe its just me but the place I go to for Therapy has made me uncomfortable lately. My therapist seems to be ok herself but I am not real happy with the office setup. Her room has a hallway in between it and the scheduling office into which people come and go for their own therapy and just outside that is the scheduling and waiting room that always has people in it as some of the people are either dropped off ahead of time or waiting to be picked up as they are not able to drive due to the psych. Meds they are on. My issue is the walls ouare not soundproof or very thick at all, as I can attest as for some reason they had a counselor talking with clients in the hallway just outside where I was and though I could not make out what they were saying word for word, you could hear them. My therapist turned on a background noise machine to muffle our voices ( I think) but turned it off when it just seemed to distract and frustrate us more. I feel as if I can't really talk and really I have a hard enough time with sharing anyway. I have an appointment this afternoon and am about ready to tell her "What's the point really? "

deleted_user 05/13/2013

Maybe she could put on some quiet meditation music or you could do a phone consult. Anyplace I have gone where there are multiple therapists have the noise machines at their door on the outside to make sure that all of the voices are muffled. When I went somewhere that there were multiple therapists, sometimes I could hear what was going on on the outside, but put that aside a little bit, in order to focus on myself. My therapist now, lives in a very old house where there are old radiators that make noise when they go on, and hiss and scared the crap out of me the first time I was there. There are also cars going by, and I always put my back to the window, and have had to get used to talking in that. environment. Tell your therapist how you are feeling and see what she can do to accommodate you. In essence, she works for you, and should be trying to help you feel as comfortable as possible.

IleneW 05/13/2013

The point is that if you
speak up and express
yourself, positive change
may take place.

If you keep it to yourself
and quit therapy, there's
no chance of positive
change with this scenario.

Also. . . . . the action of
speaking up for yourself
is an ESSENTIAL part of
practicing SELF-CARE.

One of the results of having
been abused is that we tend
to SILENCE ourself. During
abuse, this may be a survival
mechanism. When we're not
being abused, expressing
ourself is just being HEALTHY.

Please share your thoughts
with the therapist. If nothing
changes, you can take other
actions. But first,
please take this one.

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