Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I just spoke to a therapist over the phone. She seems like she has a lot of experience dealing with trauma. But when I asked whether or not she believed in giving advice, she stated that she views it as unethical but she does give insights after listening carefully to the client's story. In addition, when I asked her about healing component and treatment modality, she stated that she gives a lot of homework like journaling since outside of therapy it is the only nonjudgmental help. In reference to treatment modality, she stated that she believes in existensionalism which she explained that everything we do in life is based on choice and we are responsible for what we put in our book and she also believes in CBT. In continuing the conversation, she stated that she does have experience with narcissistic personality disorder but is not an expert nor does she know anyone who is, which I realize there aren't many people who understand it nor do they understand narcissistic abuse.
I must say I am not sure whether or not she and I will be a good fit because I don't believe that everything in life is a choice and I don't know how to deal with everything in my life without advice. However I do plan to interview other therapists but I don't have a lot of options in my area. Sigh. I really need help in dealing with my stuff because I cannot spend another year suffering with teetering and tottering. At the same time, I don't want to just choose anyone. And I am not sure how to weigh the pros with the cons.
What do you all think? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
I must say I am not sure whether or not she and I will be a good fit because I don't believe that everything in life is a choice and I don't know how to deal with everything in my life without advice. However I do plan to interview other therapists but I don't have a lot of options in my area. Sigh. I really need help in dealing with my stuff because I cannot spend another year suffering with teetering and tottering. At the same time, I don't want to just choose anyone. And I am not sure how to weigh the pros with the cons.
What do you all think? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
With regard to everything being a choice, yeah. That rubs me the wrong way too. But I have to say, I met with a counselor in a kind of "emergency" situation when I had a breakdown after a particularly rough legal battle with my ex-husband. He was tough and completely unsympathetic. He told me that everything that happened until that point had been my choice (marriage, having a child, having two more children, staying longer, etc.), but now I made a new choice and left and I was now free to make my life as I liked. He told me, simply: "Stop being a victim." I was actually pretty angry afterwards because a lot of the things that I went through during the divorce were definitely not my choice and I definitely *was* a victim. But in the long run, I have benefitted from thinking about my life choices as my own. It has made me much less likely to accept things I don't want. (I did that every day when I was married.) I still don't believe that *everything* is a choice, but that session turned out to be kind of empowering in the end.
Anyway, I digress. I think it's tough to choose someone without having a session or two first. This one sounds not bad, but maybe talk to a couple more and see what sort of impression the others give.