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on a silver platter

mildred71
mildred71
My Ex's heart on a silver platter:
picky demands, conceited/condescending attitude, very critical,
wine and cigar addiction, work-out addiction, fickle, emotional
crushes on other women, bad temper.

I dated my ex for one year.

Blood, Sweat, Tears, and Prayers went into that relationship.

I pray that God will give me a New Heart: a heart that is no
longer broken into a million pieces.

What are some of the ways
that you have healed your heart?
artemis000
artemis000
My heart healed long ago. It's the mess he caused in my life that is taking time to sort out.

It's easier for the heart to heal when we realise that the relationship was a sham and everything the abuser told us was a pack of lies in order to control us.
mildred71
mildred71
Thank-you artemis, that was very kind and sweet advice.
I really need advice on how to heal a broken heart. :)
Love, Mil.
wvartgirl
wvartgirl
I am fixing my heart by focussing on loving me.I think it was my low self esteem that kept me with him for so long, the weak part that allowed my heart to break as well. Now I try to rely on my self love rather than looking for it elsewhere...Also, enjoying being my son's mom has healed my heart. He was initially very angry at me for leaving his dad but through love (& therapy) he has worked through that anger and loves me. That has helped me enormously, not in a clingy mom kind of way but just in general. Hope that helps, mil.
Livndadrem
Livndadrem
I wish I knew ...
clearbreakofday
clearbreakofday
I think it all gets better in time.
blackdog999
blackdog999
hello mildred...bless you...i'm not sure my heart has exactly healed as such...the pain dulls over time though
deleted_user
deleted_user
The bible says God is near to the broken hearted.Call out to him and he will be there to give you His strenght when you have none of your own, God can fill you with peace that passeth all understanding.If you stay busy, keep your mind busy with thoughts of other things.Time , time helps.Sometimes we just have to feel the hurt too and cry to be able to move on.Remember a clean cut heals the fastest.If you keep reopening the wound it will have to start the rehealing process all over again.So try to stay away from him, not see him at all.Don't give him the chance to worm his way back in.A mistake I have made too many times myself.I will pray for you.You are not alone.Maybe a support group could help too, a place to share and vent.Best wishes too you,Love,Lydia
deleted_user
deleted_user
I realized that if I thought he made me happy, imagine how happy I could be with someone who would treat me right and not break my heart. I dated my ex for 3 years and I think he cheated on me in disgusting ways over 10 times and I don't know how or why I put up with it. I stopped thinking about him all together to really help heal my heart. Not to mention, didn't realize how many were interested in my friendship once i was out of the terrible relationship. There are so many people out there to choose from that can do nothing, but good. So, I stopped wasting my time on the bad. Thought of it as a good experience.