Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been having a rough few days..... He has been constantly hounding me about fixing the marriage, blah blah blah.....
He just said the following statement to me and I almost fell to the floor....... I don't even know what to say...
He told me he has been thinking a lot about what we have talked about, (although it has been mostly him talking and telling me that I just need to give in and fix the marriage) and said to me that he thinks me not wanting to fix the marriage is because I lost weight and it is my payback to him because of the negative things he said to me in the past.
He goes on to tell me, I hope you are all sitting down for this one........................
He said and I quote "When we talk about things that make sense you shut down, you either have a headache, have nothing to say or go to sleep". He is talking about what he talks about wanting me to work on the marriage.
He said "I'm trying to open your eyes and get you to see it". He wants me to believe things are different and he has changed.
He just said the following statement to me and I almost fell to the floor....... I don't even know what to say...
He told me he has been thinking a lot about what we have talked about, (although it has been mostly him talking and telling me that I just need to give in and fix the marriage) and said to me that he thinks me not wanting to fix the marriage is because I lost weight and it is my payback to him because of the negative things he said to me in the past.
He goes on to tell me, I hope you are all sitting down for this one........................
He said and I quote "When we talk about things that make sense you shut down, you either have a headache, have nothing to say or go to sleep". He is talking about what he talks about wanting me to work on the marriage.
He said "I'm trying to open your eyes and get you to see it". He wants me to believe things are different and he has changed.
And who needs them to frickin open our eyes? Our eyes are open enough, we're not babies!
And yes, it's amazing how what they want is "sense", what we want is not.
In his mind his comment makes sense to him as do all his words!
But he also knows he is being ambiguous in some respects to u do then his comments are not really making sense and u have to think about it!
Abusers are just plain nuts and actually they are like little boys (. And girls) who were told don't put your hand in the sweat jar and they put their hand in the sweat jar anyway and then they are left wondering "why am I being punished" whilst they say " I didn't put my hand in the swart jar, you imagined it!"
Seriously have they no shame, I'm actually embarrassed for them because they look like totally idiots most of the time!