Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
yesterday my oldest and middle daughter were in the kitchen cooking and I noticed that there was a lot of yelling at each other.
I told everyone in a calm voice, "can we not yell at each other, we all need to work on talking in a normal calm voice."
Everyone started talking in a calmer manner.
This morning my middle daughter was helping me awake her sister, she started yelling immediately, I reminded her, "Try and wake her up in a calmer tone, and maybe she will get up in a happier mood"
Well my youngest began kicking at her and hitting her, "Baby, you need to stop hitting and kicking your sister all the time, start being nice to your older sister, and remember your sister is always helping you with all sorts of things"
I have my only son doing chores tonight when he gets home, and my middle daughter, and my youngest daughter are cleaning there rooms tonight.
Myself I have been working on not being so on edge anymore. I am working on talking to my children and getting them to understand that I am not neglecting them. They have this idea that I neglect them, and I don't spend any time with them and that I spend way too much time with my man. Which is not true.
So I have been working on balancing everything out with spending time with my family. We have been taking family outings on Sundays. And on Monday and Tuesdays we been planning errands to run.
I am getting my children involved in different communty activities. I been way too overprotective of them, and they are very isolated, so I have been trying to get them out of there shells and learning to be around people and involved with other people.
It's hard to make these changes, but I feel like its really unhealthy for them to be so isolated.
I need to get them into counseling and myself too, but just finding the time, is the thing.
My son has anger issues that really need to be dealt with, and his grades are not that great, he says school isn't important. He tries to get involved in stuff, but we live 15 miles from his school and the activities that he wants to get involved in require me to pick him up. But I don't always have the gas to go get him.
I am struggling this month with my bills. So it's just little changes that need to be made, but I don't want to overwhelm everyone and just try little changes at a time.
I am going to find a way to let my son get involved in that art class, but I need to find a way to get him back two times a week. That is a lot of gas.
I am just sharing today.
I told everyone in a calm voice, "can we not yell at each other, we all need to work on talking in a normal calm voice."
Everyone started talking in a calmer manner.
This morning my middle daughter was helping me awake her sister, she started yelling immediately, I reminded her, "Try and wake her up in a calmer tone, and maybe she will get up in a happier mood"
Well my youngest began kicking at her and hitting her, "Baby, you need to stop hitting and kicking your sister all the time, start being nice to your older sister, and remember your sister is always helping you with all sorts of things"
I have my only son doing chores tonight when he gets home, and my middle daughter, and my youngest daughter are cleaning there rooms tonight.
Myself I have been working on not being so on edge anymore. I am working on talking to my children and getting them to understand that I am not neglecting them. They have this idea that I neglect them, and I don't spend any time with them and that I spend way too much time with my man. Which is not true.
So I have been working on balancing everything out with spending time with my family. We have been taking family outings on Sundays. And on Monday and Tuesdays we been planning errands to run.
I am getting my children involved in different communty activities. I been way too overprotective of them, and they are very isolated, so I have been trying to get them out of there shells and learning to be around people and involved with other people.
It's hard to make these changes, but I feel like its really unhealthy for them to be so isolated.
I need to get them into counseling and myself too, but just finding the time, is the thing.
My son has anger issues that really need to be dealt with, and his grades are not that great, he says school isn't important. He tries to get involved in stuff, but we live 15 miles from his school and the activities that he wants to get involved in require me to pick him up. But I don't always have the gas to go get him.
I am struggling this month with my bills. So it's just little changes that need to be made, but I don't want to overwhelm everyone and just try little changes at a time.
I am going to find a way to let my son get involved in that art class, but I need to find a way to get him back two times a week. That is a lot of gas.
I am just sharing today.
I think little changes at a time sounds good.. Please don't forget about taking care of you too. You need special time.
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