Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So, I've been in a relationship with this woman since March 7th 2017. She was absolutey stunning, kind hearted, compassionate, caring/ sympathetic had suffered from mental illnesses and treated me better then I couldnt of ever imagined being treated. We were exercising together, hanging out with friends alone or with each other, living out own lives outside our relationship, I have never been more happy with how things were, things started to change once I got a full time job, we could not go walking I. The morning/ afternoon and it went from walking almost everyday to it being very rare that we went for walks, things were still great tho and we both still showed and expressed happiness with each other. Things stayed the same way except I spoiled her every time I had a chance by taking her out to a nice dinner, buying her something she would like/ want and going going shopping and getting her something she had been eyeing Down, things had been great but our exercise had really depleted and spent more time at home or out (I still had a few friends at this point and had the support of my family) shopping or going to the lake parking lot. Months had gone by and something happened to my vison, I got double vison and needed treatment or glasses that I had no idea would work at the time, so I had to stop working September 2017 but still received money until november 2017 and in between September at November my girlfriend had started saying bad things about friends and family and I stopped seeing some friends and got more distant with family, my nan had passed away at the end of November, she was acting more upset then I was and I was very upset and lost about it, I had got in a fight with my parents and then my sister attacked me by talking bad about my girlfriend then talking to my girlfriend saying she deserves way better then me. My girlfriend had obsessed over my sister and talked bad about her quite a lot and then started avoiding her at all times but before that she convinced me to see family at some times I didn't want to. So from losing my job In September and lost finances in the end of November I hadn't got glasses till February and couldn'S get my job back as a courier rigjt away, my girlfriend was helping with finances, we both lived at our parents but her parents provided for her and mine did not. She eventually started staying most her time at my home and it was nice, i fell into a deppression and relied pn getting this job back I had waited. was still very nice to be around up until the beginning of April 2018 and I was lined up to renovate my parents house and get paid and then start my old job after,she started becom8ng distant, negative, saying comments such as nothing you do makes me happy, nothing you do is productive, I had then started renovating the house and then we got into a discussion about "us" and She had told me her and her Dr came to the conclusion. The I had been unproductive my whole life says my girl when she had known me for only a year, told me her parents did not know i was right for her, stopped spending time with me, stopped caring about my feelings and got short tempered, snapped when I hadn't even finnsh saying a word, making her life seem so horrible to everyone around her and then made me look "nuts" to her friends and family. She started speaking loud and or yelling in public and infront of friends and family puting words in my mouth and finishing my sentences out loud so people could hear her understanding that was so different from what I tried to say. She pushed me away from the fridge instead of saying excuse me. Anyway. I don' talk to any friends, have support from anybody but her, well I did at one point.. have validation from her and her family, I have lost 35 pounds that I did not have to lose, isolated myself over time, got put downs from her get then when I confronted her she claimed she didn't say them then got mad at me and made me feel guilty about it. That became recurring, she started mimicking me, making me feel horrible about things that I shouldn't and twisted my words to make it seem horrible, I stood up to her, she screamed, cryed, talked about self harm and suicide, yelled out stuff I did not say so others would hear. This is very brief and alot more has happened, I admit I'm not perfect and far from it but I honestly believe I don't deserve to be told my whole life has been unproductive by the one I love that has only know me a year and one month. If anybody needs more info just ask, I honestly don't know what to think, the only time she' nice to me is if I validate everything she says and don't disagree. I need outside help. I distanced myself from her and reached out to a few friends and family for support. I am now trying to figure out if I want to be with her or Not, I am hoping that she stops with the put downs and insults. I love her and want things to work. I really do.