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Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
. Ugh!!! My family is SOOOO frustrating. I swear they have problems. They don't see alcohol as a problem. I say my opinion. Does it matter? No. I just get laughed at. My mom makes fun of me and brings my self esteem down. Does dhe feel bad? No!!!!! She says I'm being overly sensitive over nothing. Apparently me being unable to carry 4-5 bags in an organizer way makes me a hobo. Of course my mom doesn't feel bad EVER for what she says!!!!!!!!!!!!! DOES ANYTHING I SAY MATTER?????!!!!!!! IM CONSTANTLY EXHAUSTED FROM DEALING WITH MY MOM!!!!!! Sorry. I'm rambling/venting.
rexory15
rexory15
Hang in there honey Ive been where you are. So I know how you feel. I think that you should talk to a guidance counselor at school.or something. Or better yet call DHS in your state. Look under either State listings or Govt listings. Have you been telling anyone about whats been happening? Even a friend as I used to do? It would be better coming from an adult but if they get reported it has to be checked out.
Good Luck honey and hang in there and know that you'!re NOT Alone! God Bless and Take Care
ehope
ehope
Have you talked to anyone yet? If not, why not?
violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
My friends know. And one adult. I'm just sick of this!!!!
ehope
ehope
I should have been more specific. Did you talk to an abuse hotline, counselor or trusted teacher yet? If not, why not?
violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
No. I fear being judged. I don't want people to know what's going on. I'm scared of what people will say.
MyTrueColors
MyTrueColors
So which is worse, having someone think something or you and your siblings continuing to live the way you're living?

My therapist suggests that what other people think of me is none of my business. And you know what? That's true because what other people think is nothing more than their own projections and it has nothing to do w/our reality.
violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
My siblings living like this. I want the best for them. But the 16 & 12 yr old think nothing's wrong with my parents and the 9,4 & 1 yr old can't understand what's going on.
MyTrueColors
MyTrueColors
Sweetie that's because that's all they know. If your parents don't sober up AND get help, your siblings will grow up to think its ok to drink and act like your parents are acting. Plus giving alcohol to children whose brains and bodies aren't fully developed WILL cause damage and is considered child abuse, just like yelling and screaming and physical abuse.
ehope
ehope
You realize that you have yourself running yourself in a circle, right?

1) I want help but "I don't want people to know what's going on."
2) "I fear being judged".
3) "I'm scared of what people will say." Go to step one.

Have you ever watched the Star War series? Yoda says:

"Do or do not. There is no try."

In other words, if you want help you need to ask for it. Don't put it off and pretend things will get better.
violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
I think I might tell my grandma when I see her. And is it possible I imagined my mom giving the baby alcohol? I'm starting to try to tell myself it didn't happen.
notmyself1
notmyself1
It sounds like your fear of the unknown - telling, caring what people may think (which you shouldn't), now trying to convince yourself the bad things didn't happen....

sounds like ways you're just trying to cope and not face these horrible issues head on.

You do know whats best. You're stronger and more put together and mature than both your parents put together.

Yes, its scary! You're an 18 y/o having to deal with and make adult decisions. Please speak with the youth counselor to start with.

You can do this!
Hugs,
xo
violetwallflower532
violetwallflower532
I can't do this mom. I can't. I'm scared.