hang in there, i'm proud of you.

Way to go.

Stand strong.

Remember that
emotions are like
weather, changeable.

If one night you have
a misty dream of the
past and sit up feeling
bereft. . . . .

pull out the cards!!!!!!

And practice SELF-CARE
every hour.

You're on your way!

Thank you. That is exactly what I am going to do. Those dreams can be haunting. It can be SO easy to have and SO difficult to shake off. I just love the cards idea. It seems so simple yet I never thought of it. Sometimes I do write messages to myself on my hand. Reminders. The cards are great because it is more than ONE message. I can just pull one out at random.

There are so many individual things that he said or did that all by themself are deal breakers. Yet, they can be so easy to forget or let slide...

NC 4 days, 22 hours, 11 minutes

Stay strong and remember that you come first! Keep up the good work. We are all proud of you!! Hugs gB

You are doing so awesome Shannon! You did 5 days, you can do another, then another and another........

You can do it we are all proud of you!

OH that is great!! I feel the same way! Each day seems a little bit better or easier. Sometimes I cry sometimes I think I miss him but then I get a flashback of what he did to me and it ruins that idea Thank God!
I think your doing great and you already can see how life is feeling a bit better. Peace - we forgot what that was like! Its hard to get used to again but it feels good in a way. I feel way less stressed don't you?
Keep it up I have five days - we are about in the same spot!

I really hate typing up a whole response and then it doesnt save. ARGH

I just wanted to say that I am grateful and appreciative of your warm comments. I was logging into this page so that I could give a shout out for additional support and I found that it was ALREADY here. I just appreciate you guys.

Today is 6 days, 1 hour, and 28 minutes

I am so determined not to have to start this over. My daughter brought him up last night and I almost asked her if she had heard from him or where he was spending Christmas but I stopped myself. It is NONE of my business and I actually feel better not knowing.

Less than a week until Christmas is over. I am determined NOT to let my abuser into my Christmas time. I think I will cry all the way home today. Grieve for what I have lost. It makes me sad and I need to cry but I dont want any NEW pain or any NEW abuse. There is enough of it from the past to heal from.

This board, close friends, and a few books have been lifesavers for me. I'm glad that other women have found this as well.

It is really hard, Shannon, not to have contact over the holidays. I feel bad too. And I feel like checking up on him, asking about him through his family, but then I remember that it is none of my business and the less I know, the better. I like how another member told me that I can only control how I react and I can't control him. So I have to move forward in the direction that I want to take my life, and not worry if he will be there lurking in the shadows waiting to jump out at me. Good luck and hang in there.

PS Good reminder that I need the cards.

Way to go on your 6 days!! Today is 7 days for me! We are doing it! Stay strong and look forward. If my son and I accidentally bring up anything about the ex and what he did we stop it and say "Pact!" we say we have a pact to help each other not talk or dwell on him. It really helps us to leave the ex behind. We remind each other. I feel so bad my son has bad dreams that he comes back and he fights him. So we work together on it. My son went to Church with me the last 2 Sundays too. Its so much better than life before!