Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So I have been thinking alot and I know what needs to be done. My plan is I'm hoping to leave mid march, I would like to leave today but it just is not possible right now. I work for a family business and my husband is working part time for us right now, my brother is laid up for a month he had surgery on his foot, so he is not able to work at all and we need my husband to work for us until my brother is back on his feet. I call it taking one for the team, which i am not happy about but there is no other way around it, i dont have anyone else that can fill in for him and since he is not working anywhere else, this is our only option, my brother should be ready to go back to work mid march and then i dont have to worry about needing help for my dads business from him. I think this will be the longest month and a half ever but i have survived this long, i should be able to make it.
I have figured out this is going to be the hardest thing i will ever do in my life but will be totally worth it in the end to be free!!
I have figured out this is going to be the hardest thing i will ever do in my life but will be totally worth it in the end to be free!!
I recently left my stbx husband and moved out. It's tough, because I do still think about him and occasionally feel sad that my marriage is over. But, I also feel relieved and am looking forward to my new life at the same time. What's been helping me the most is rereading my books on abusers and abusive relationships, because it constantly reminds me of why I left.
The fact that you've already got a game plan in place and even a tentative timeframe shows how serious you are. It is so worth it to be abuse-free. Wishing you the best!
And take very good
care of yourself.
Good for you, for
putting a plan in
place. it's hard,
but freedom is
worth the effort.
In the meantime, can you quietly start looking around for a backup for your brother? Just in case his healing doesn't go as planned or if in the future you need additional help then you wont feel compelled to call your H?
Just a thought. Planning is good! There is things that we cannot control. it is good to have a plan for the things that you can control.
Keep us posted.
Seawee