Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Headed to the farmhouse to get my final things. After this there will be no further contact until I have to sue him for money he owes. Can't do that until December....so I actually have a clean and total break for a few months.
Its very sad. This will probably be the last time I visit this lovely farm. He stole it along with my dreams. I only hope one day I can forgive him. One thing is for sure, this time (unlike in past relationships) I will NOT forget what I endured. I will hold onto it for the rest of my life, not as anger but as a tool to protect me. I did not deserve this and it is not my fault. And I have made a promise to myself that if I ever see similar behavior in another, I will cut the relationship out of love and respect for myself.
Wish me luck. He shouldn't be there...off camping with the new girl, but there will be some friends that I have had to go NC with. It will uncomfortable but I have a friend going with me.
Its very sad. This will probably be the last time I visit this lovely farm. He stole it along with my dreams. I only hope one day I can forgive him. One thing is for sure, this time (unlike in past relationships) I will NOT forget what I endured. I will hold onto it for the rest of my life, not as anger but as a tool to protect me. I did not deserve this and it is not my fault. And I have made a promise to myself that if I ever see similar behavior in another, I will cut the relationship out of love and respect for myself.
Wish me luck. He shouldn't be there...off camping with the new girl, but there will be some friends that I have had to go NC with. It will uncomfortable but I have a friend going with me.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Of course you did not deserve this and I am so very happy you are situated away from him. You will be so much happier. Congratulations.
I wish you all the luck in the world!!!!
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You are right, you did not deserve the treatment you endured from him. So happy you know that:)
It will get easier, I promise.
Having a celebratory glass of wine tonight-with you in mind!:)
I'd glad you are honoring your feelings and allowing yourself to feel them. I'm also glad you won't hold on to the anger. You are right, you didn't deserve this. Use it as a learning too. the first time I met my therapist she asked me if I had ever considered that what he had done was his gift to me. I looked at her like she had three heads and practically shouted, hell no! Now, four years later, I have found compassion for him and much gratitude for his 'gift.'
Had he not done what he did, I'd still be with him and never would have taken my power back and I never would have found my passion or been open and receptive to all the wonderful new things that have happened in my life.
Please know that you can take your power and your dreams back! Maybe not this farm, but definitely your dreams! You never know what is around the next corner.
I gave up practically everything (material wise) when I left, after almost 4 decades. He tried to ruin my relationships w/my adult kids & everyone else who knew me. He lied about what my family said & thought about my leaving. I had to wait it out and let my true light shine thru, but people are now seeing me for who I really am and now how he made me appear.
My life is so much better now. And yours will be too.
Sending you healing thoughts!!
and prayers for
all good things.
Please take good care
of yourself on your
journey to freedom.