Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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lolly22 05/01/2016

You think you're fine and dandy and then it all just comes crashing back. The nightmares, the sudden tears, the loneliness and the worthlessness. I can't get this stuff out of my head and I see nothing to live for. Why does this stuff happen? What did I do to deserve this?
How do some people just go around crushing lives and feel no remorse, not even see the real effect of their actions or just not care? I can't imagine squeezing the life out of a human being like this and still being able to live with myself.

IleneW 05/02/2016

I'm so sorry to hear
you're in such awful
pain.

You don't have to suffer
in silence or alone. Have
you visited your local
women's center. They
often have resources
there to help survivors
heal and move forward.

Also, practicing
self-care daily
is another essential
way to begin to heal.

Sending you hugs
and wishes for
better days ahead.

itsjustmeagain 05/02/2016

you ever try emotional freedom technique? ive done it and its quite remarkable the results, you need to re wire that brain of yours, you are worthy of a good life, start living, slowing, get out there, read/church, groups, whatever you can - i got a dog, and my god does help me w/the pain/walking//being selfless and taking care of him..

you just got caught up w/a crazy person, its not your fault, let it go, breathe, enjoy what you left and be grateful that POS is out of your life

mari2016 05/03/2016

Yes, it's so very difficult to understand how someone could treat another human being so terribly. I still wrestle with this on a daily basis. I daydream about screaming tearfully to my ex "How could you do this to me and your daughter?! How can you be so cold and cruel?!" But I know that my attempts to understand him just lead me back to the darkness. I have read all the books, gone to the counseling but at the end of the day the very sad reality is that some people do choose to act like monsters - and there is nothing fair or reasonable about it. He doesn't even understand himself so there is no way he's ever going to understand me or empathize with my pain. When I really get stuck on obsessing over these things, journaling and praying helps. Also a good trauma therapist with experience dealing with abuse situations.
Whatever has happened to you - you do not deserve this. Would you ever treat another person the way you have been treated? No, I'm sure you wouldn't. You are worthy of love, understanding, and patience.
((hugs))

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