Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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mamacoxx4
mamacoxx4
Just a bit of inspiration for all..today my youngest daughter (7) came up to me with tears in her eyes,put her arm around me and out of the blue told me that anyone in the whole world would be lucky to have me be their wife because she "loves my heart" and I'm the "kindest most loving" person ever. Talk about words to encourage..I've been feeling like I may be breaking the last 2 weeks, feeling more guilt than ever that I let my children down and worried that they will never know what a healthy Daddy looks like. I have let them down,I know that, but I feel encouraged for the first time that I can to the best of my ability try to right some of these wrongs. I see a glimmer of hope, and see us making positive progress..and for that, I'm so grateful!! Happy Sunday All!! We can overcome this!!
Livndadrem
Livndadrem
I well understand the guilt you feel, the sense that you have "let your children down", but you haven't. Turn it around and instead of beating yourself up for the fact you are with an abuser, give yourself an enormous pat on the back for the fact you are taking steps to save them from a lifetime of abuse.

It's not your fault they don't know what a healthy daddy looks like, and there's nothing you can do about that. What you can do (and are doing) is protect them from an unhealthy daddy, show them that what he does is not acceptable, and show them what a strong and healthy mother looks like.

In saving yourself, you are also saving your kids. Pat yourself on the back for that. And for the fact that, already, they can see you for who you are.
beansprout
beansprout
What Livn said. Also, your daughter sees you for who you really are. She sees the honest you who offers herself with no ulterior motive, no hateful or hurtful intentions. See this as a big sign that you are doing an excellent job as a mum. Maybe your kids won't know what a healthy dad is, but they can see what a strong, loving, healthy mum is. Well done!