Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I learned a huge lesson about thinking an abuser can and will change. The answer is NO. I was sweet talked by a silver tongued man who takes money from women. DS friends please take a look at what happened to me and remember when they try to manipulate us back into their web. The only way to deal with them is NC. I am getting through this mostly by staying on this board and by being pretty low key and quiet. There is really not much else I can say on this topic today. Today I may be feeling a bit better. I really hope my anger at him never leaves. And really I don't feel like forgiving him. But, I may forgive me in due time. I was stalked and reeled in like a fish on a line. Very scary when I really think about it. Love to all and thank you so much for your kind support.
As for forgiving the abuser, I know how you feel. These types don't really seem to have any sense of remorse, so I'm not sure I'll be able to really forgive them either. At least not after some time.
"I may forgive me in due time" I really hope so. Like I said, it's not your fault. They're jerks.
/hugs
Ilene's index cards are great for this. To help you not forget.
I know how hard it is with manipulators.
Hang in there! We are here for you! :)
And I echo the helpful things that the others have said - you were charmed by a devious villain, but you are still your wonderful self!!
Huge hugs xxx