Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hey guys, hope you all had a good weekend.
At church this past sunday, the pastor gave a speech on vision, and how you should not let problems get in the way of vision. Well I had this beautiful vision that my ex and I would get married and have this wonderful life together, we
were engaged, etc. I really am determined to stay gone, now that I have left, at least for a year or two, or three, we just have so many problems that we both need to deal with separately. I still believe that one day I could try to work things out with him. I really, really love him. Leaving is difficult.
At church this past sunday, the pastor gave a speech on vision, and how you should not let problems get in the way of vision. Well I had this beautiful vision that my ex and I would get married and have this wonderful life together, we
were engaged, etc. I really am determined to stay gone, now that I have left, at least for a year or two, or three, we just have so many problems that we both need to deal with separately. I still believe that one day I could try to work things out with him. I really, really love him. Leaving is difficult.
I wish you all the best and I hope you make the right decision for you. We are here for you if you ever fall...
In my situation, my ex and I moved on to better lives. Not having me as a crutch, my ex had no choice but to get out there and learn how to function in the world. So far as I know, he has had problems of abusive women... (ah, the tables have turned!) and he is no longer an abuser.
I think that some couples are toxic to one another. Mix the wrong things together and... BOOM. He may find his second chance with someone else... just wish him happiness and try to find it yourself.
In my case, it turned into full on hate... which is kinda a bad thing, but much preferable to love for him, anyway.
That "love" I felt for him was the shitty superglue that kept me with him for all that time. He fostered that with his brainwashing and control until he was my heaven and earth and I was obsessed with the feeling of love and acceptance that he could provide to me... and take away at his pleasure. When I left him I pined for him and it felt like my entire reality was tearing apart. But I made it.
After a while... when I started getting flashbacks and really seeing him for what he was, I stopped loving him.
and know that God can not pick up what we wont lay down and let loose of,right.
sound like your in love with fairy tale that so many believed & believe and fail to live.
at least you didnt waste 5 or more yrs of your life, yrs that we cant get bk and redo.
now that would be great if we could and my x could give me bk my 30tys.
yep I knowing better gave a little more than just from my core but now I have no ideal why I cried when I left his sorry a_s.
Heres some kleenx and afew hugs.