Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
all this week, I have been giving my honey a ride, from his mom's to work, I called each morning and asked if he needed a ride, he said yes, I go pick him up and two days in a row I am late, I tell him they don't put up with late birds at my work. all he says is i'm sorry, I told him Im not angry, but I will get fired, tomorrow I will just show up at your house 20 mins early so I can make it to work on time.
He has no gas to put in the car, because the money he asked his mom for went to his habit.
In my mind I am thinking why should I have to pay for your mistake, but at the same time, I feel for him, he is so stuck on his habit, that he doesn't see how he toxic he is to everyone else. His own mom included.
I wonder if his mom would allow him to stay there, knowing that he is using her money....not for gas, but for mj. She doesn't like me, or that her son is with me, so I am not getting involved in that area of her life, it's her choice, but she thinks its me that is influencing her precious son. I don't even smoke. I enjoy a couple drinks here and there, but it's not important to me as being sober for my children. So I just let her think what she wants.
I need to set my boundaries up again. I need to leave him, but I am waiting because of reasons of my own. To anyone, these reasons might seem petty, but to me they are very important.
I kicked him out because first he accused me of messing around with my co worker, or all of them, i don't know which one, first one name came out, than another, and of course I have a eye candy here at work and I mistakenly let him know when we were first starting to get to know each other, and he holds that over me too. But yeah even get accused of my eye candy. haha! I think that is funny and so do my co workers. They tease me when I am on the phone with him. like one will say, I love you too, when I am telling honey I love him. haha! its funny to me.
The second reason I kicked him out was because he was getting lazy and not finding a job. as soon as he moved in with his mom, he found a job.
I asked him one time, why when I talked to him about getting a job, and all these things, he just never listened, his mom tells him once and he jumps over the moon for her. He told me he doesn't do that, he does everything on his own.
Well then I told him to build his own home, up on his land where he wants it, he said no we will save the $20000-300000 and move your house up there. uh....hello sell the house and use that money on the new house we are building?
Well I quit talking to him about our future now because I know we are not in this for the long haul.
One day I will finally be over him and on my own completely, and he will be making his next victim as miserable as me.
He wasn't happy in his last marraige, I make him miserable now, I am beginning to see a pattern. Who's the miserable one?
It's a daily choice for me to see happy in my life. I am ready for my happily ever after. And if he isn't choosing to live happily ever after with me, than I will go on and live happily ever after by myself with my children.
He has no gas to put in the car, because the money he asked his mom for went to his habit.
In my mind I am thinking why should I have to pay for your mistake, but at the same time, I feel for him, he is so stuck on his habit, that he doesn't see how he toxic he is to everyone else. His own mom included.
I wonder if his mom would allow him to stay there, knowing that he is using her money....not for gas, but for mj. She doesn't like me, or that her son is with me, so I am not getting involved in that area of her life, it's her choice, but she thinks its me that is influencing her precious son. I don't even smoke. I enjoy a couple drinks here and there, but it's not important to me as being sober for my children. So I just let her think what she wants.
I need to set my boundaries up again. I need to leave him, but I am waiting because of reasons of my own. To anyone, these reasons might seem petty, but to me they are very important.
I kicked him out because first he accused me of messing around with my co worker, or all of them, i don't know which one, first one name came out, than another, and of course I have a eye candy here at work and I mistakenly let him know when we were first starting to get to know each other, and he holds that over me too. But yeah even get accused of my eye candy. haha! I think that is funny and so do my co workers. They tease me when I am on the phone with him. like one will say, I love you too, when I am telling honey I love him. haha! its funny to me.
The second reason I kicked him out was because he was getting lazy and not finding a job. as soon as he moved in with his mom, he found a job.
I asked him one time, why when I talked to him about getting a job, and all these things, he just never listened, his mom tells him once and he jumps over the moon for her. He told me he doesn't do that, he does everything on his own.
Well then I told him to build his own home, up on his land where he wants it, he said no we will save the $20000-300000 and move your house up there. uh....hello sell the house and use that money on the new house we are building?
Well I quit talking to him about our future now because I know we are not in this for the long haul.
One day I will finally be over him and on my own completely, and he will be making his next victim as miserable as me.
He wasn't happy in his last marraige, I make him miserable now, I am beginning to see a pattern. Who's the miserable one?
It's a daily choice for me to see happy in my life. I am ready for my happily ever after. And if he isn't choosing to live happily ever after with me, than I will go on and live happily ever after by myself with my children.
He's a grown man, sponging off his mother and using you for whatever he can. Just saying what I read...
I left a man like that almost a year ago and life has been WONDERFUL since then.
Yes, you need to move on.
He wouldn't even look back twice, if I left him now, but I am hanging onto a slim chance that it will one day work out.
I know, its a nil on the chance, but I can't seem to let go for the life of me.
He still showers me with gifts, and some of these gifts have no price tag on them, so I'm wondering what is the motif behind this? But yet I am so happy with these gifts. These gifts are priceless, and have too much value to even put a price on them. So he keeps me like this. I guess, that is where the slim chance is.
But when he treats me like last night left overs, I get my gumption again. So keep on encouraging me, and one day I will be posting about the start of my new journey.
Thank you peggsu2