Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
For the past seven years I have been in an abusive relationship (Finacal and emotional) and need to get out. I am at the end of my rope and have bad dreams when I can sleep. Sometimes I sleep all day, other times I cat nap. I hardly ever wake up happy and a lot of times I wish I hadn't woken up. I have no joy or passion for the things I once enjoyed. The abuse is geting worse and the abuser somehow finds ways to blame me, however, I don't buy into that anymore. I am affraid to leave and I am afraid to stay. Things got more frigtening when I had a family member, I thought I could trust, go behind my back to the abuser. I already have trust issues and did not need that on top of everything else going on. I am even afraid to come here to DS. I have stared at this site for weeks trying to find will power to do this. I am not afraid of leaving for fear of being alone, but because I am 43 next month with about a $1000 to my name, no job, a junky old truck, and personal property I can't just abandon. I need a plan to safely get out. I own the only car we have and the abuser always has it at work and we this person is home, they are up my butt 24hrs. I am trapped and made to feel as if my former hobbies, intrests and passions in life are unimportant. I am made to feel as if I should greatful to be allowed a roof over my head, food and sex. I am a soft hearted person and I have been told in the past that I wear my heart on my sleeve and atract "needy people". I belive that since I always fall pry to some situation in which I lose out in the end, but this has by far been the worst ever situation or relationship I have ever been involed with.I feel as if I have been widled down to nothing. I ahve no friends or family in this State. The relitive I have is my aunt, who I had not spoken to in 30 years, until a few months ago. (we lost touch, another story.)
Here is the kicker for you and I'm sure you'll laugh (I'm use to it anyway.) I am a MAN.
Here is the kicker for you and I'm sure you'll laugh (I'm use to it anyway.) I am a MAN.
you sound like how I have felt, wanting to sleep all day
I know there are domestic abuse places for men to go to in uk, not sure about america but am sure you could google it and find something. you could ring a refuge for women and ask them for a number of someone who could help
good luck
(My father was abused.)
NOW is the time to put a plan together
and to get yourself OUT.
The domestic violence centers
everywhere are supposed to help
men as well as women. If they
don't, call your health department
and ask what resources are available.
Please don't delay.
Everyday you spend with an abuser
is a day you won't ever get back. Get
your life back in your hands!
Take good care of yourself.
I would suggest working on an escape plan. If your married an live on your property she may be the one ordered to leave, depending on the location. But for that to happen you have to be able to afford it, so get a job. Sometimes losses have to be cut to better your situation. You deserve to live a healthy life and have a healthy fulfilling relationship, if you can't do that with her, it's time to leave.
Let me ask this: If you were in a relationship and the person you "love" was told they have high blood presser and may be diabetic and need to see a family doctor to run some tests to be sure. Would you then keep puting them (you loved one) off for more then a year, telling your loved one it was because money was tight, but then go out and buy a $2500 T.V.?
Thats just one of so many things that have happend to me. I know have the BP meds, only after a fight, in which I was the one was "wrong" for being mad at her over it.