Is it me????!!! I was seeing a man for a year. I got pregnant and had a miscariage, he was not really there for me. I got pregnant again and he dumped me because i asked him if we were going away on a planned trip as his mum was dying as i had to sort other childchare out. He just dumped me, and went on the trip. After six months he contacted me and asked to see me i did. We had a talk and he said things would be different. In the last four months, he has gone back to the norm, expecting me to work in his office on my days off 24/7 with no pay or thanks. go to his house daily and stay, even though i have kids at home. i cant lok at my phone, talk to my family or friends when with him. I cannot talk or look at another man and he has men all around him as he employs men. I have to give him constant 24/7 attention. He wont have sex with me, but expects me to do things to him. He wont kiss me. The other day, i just put my finger on his lip, he SPAT in my face and i burst into tears. He goes thorugh periods of sulking and ignoring me if i do not say soething that agrees with his view or do what he demands i do. Some calls have to be made on loud speaker so he can listen and then i get told how i handled it wrongly. He puts his bogies on me, he coughs on me, he sneezes on me. He wipes his dirty hands on my clothes. I have a new car, he throws his rubbish around in it. I a not allowed to wear dresses that show ANY cleavage no matter how small. He critises the size of my head sayig it is small, that i must put make up on, when i hate weraing it. i must clean his house, clean his office. Two days ago, i was asked by him to get some lunch, i went to take it to him, but one of his beest friends and colleagues said leave it by your car, as you need to do some training )i was there for training that day) so i did and my boyfirend ended it saying that unfortunaltey he loved me but that i had demoted him and he could not cope with that. Also my ex husband after three years is back on the scene to talk about finances and said he regrests leaving so my boyfriend said that was another nail in the coffin as he did not want to get hurt as i would go back to him. Thats totally crap as i have n o feelings for my ex but no matter what i say, he wont belive me. It seems that my BF feels he knows what i am thinking more than me. He tells me what to say, what i should think and not once does he ask me about my day, i am not allowed ot mention my day or my life then he moans i have a secret life, yet when i try to mention it he is just not intersted. Says it is all about me. My little girl is mixed race and daily he brings up how disgusting i am and god forbid if a black person comes o tv as the names are unreal. he tells me i am not true to the UK and i am disgusting!! This man is 49 years old. I am sick of being dumpmed with no closure. I am sick of the fact that i try to talk to him and he sits there with his eyes closed and not participating unless it is to just tell me where i have gone wrong. He has a view that women are all sluts and whores who all just dress for attention and control relatinships. He expects me to say thank you all day yet i get none. He told me two days ago when he said he loved me unfortunaltey but was ending it i could do what i wanted when i asked shall i go home - so i said ok ill go home so he laughed and said of course as you have an agenda???? i asked him what agenda and he said i was seeing my ex - not true. He said if you go dont come back, yet he had ended it - so i went home as i could not cope and he has now ignored me. How do you deal with someone like that?????