Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I posted in the divorce group and was told I needed counseling and I should come over here! Now, I feel self conscious. I left my abusive husband about six months ago after 16yrs and one 13yr old daughter. Verbal abuse and emotional abuse started pretty early on and some physical abuse soon after. Physical abuse, pushing, throwing me on the floor, threatening to punch, about once a year to two years. Because it wasn't often, he just laughs at my term, abuse. He called awful, hurtful names. After battling depression, crazy and mentally unstable became part of the name calling. Always telling me my feelings were wrong or because of my defective mind, I started to believe him. I stayed for so long because I could not stand the thought of being away from my daughter and we tried to hide all the conflict from her until she got to be too old to hide it from. So, I am free. Except I have to share my daughter and my initial relief has given way to depression. I am getting counseling. I had a difficult and chaotic childhood also. I am just looking for support that things do get better and that people do get beyond the abuse....
Could receive help from experienced people
That understand the abuse dynamics. HUGS
Healing happens.
Recovery is possible.
I'm glad that you're
in counseling. That
has helped many of
us, significantly.
Practice SELF-CARE
on an hourly basis.
Self-care is a fabulous
antidote to depression.
Focus on everything
that nurtures and
nourishes your
well-being.
Recovery from abuse
is like any kind of
rehab. It takes focus;
it takes effort, often
really hard work;
it takes investing
in your self; ultimately
it takes the same
commitment to
your self that you
made to your marriage.
It takes restoring and
enhancing your
relationship with
your self.
The road back isn't
easy nor is it linear.
It's seldom a straight
line to recovery.
Generally, it's more
like a zig-zag. But
it's definitely possible.
Sending you hugs
and wishes for
healing and
better days
ahead.
Its hard on the divorce site, many of us understand
Abuse or have been around some narcs. Some do
Come on there and really want to talk abuse support
not Divorce/breakup support.
On the abuse Forum its more geared toward hard
core abuse issues, Name calling, total control, getting
into physical Abuse and on and on.
Many times the abused person can get bonded to Their
abuser. I try to stay out of that not my realm, the Wrong
things can get said when they are bonded in that way.
My ex has addiction issues and he has narc traits, i come
From that type of background, no big surprise, but he is
not A full fledged narc. We are both Codependents with
different set of issues.
At least i hope and pray for his own sake he is not a full
fledged narc. He does go to AA and has been dry for 30
years. We had what seemed like a fairly normal 18 years
and 12 Increasingly bad years until it was toxic so who knows
what My true reality is about my marriage.
I sent you a friend request. HUGS